Single & Pregnant: Why I Took a Solo Babymoon
After encouragement from family and friends, the author (not pictured here) decided to board a plane with baby on board. (Photo: Thinkstock)
The positive pink lines appeared when I was 26 and my boyfriend decided not to be involved. I was pregnant, and with my take-charge attitude, I decided to face my journey with tunnel vision.
But it wasn’t always easy to be brave. In fact, I was feeling pretty low and fearful 20 weeks in. That’s when a friend suggested I take a trip — she called it something ridiculous like a “babymoon.” I shrugged her off but Googled “babymoon” later on that night.
Turns out, it was actually a thing! Expectant couples go on vacation as a last hurrah before the baby is born. According to a Liberty Travel/Baby Center survey, two million “babymoons” are taken annually, generating an estimated $80 million in revenue. This was just what I needed.
I had family and an unlimited number of girlfriends already calling themselves “aunts” to join me, but I wanted to go alone. It was my “Eat, Pray, Love” moment: Baby edition. I needed to figure stuff out. I needed to figure me out. I traveled a considerable amount but never alone. Traveling alone both intrigued and scared me a little. I decided to step out of my comfort zone. I mean, my bump and I were there already, whether I liked it or not.
Oh, Palm Spings— the perfect locale for a relaxing and glam babymoon. (Photo: Thinkstock)
I’ve always wanted to visit Palm Springs, Calif., and I couldn’t imagine a better time. The quiet hush of a hot desert bordered with palm trees was exactly what I wanted as a single expecting mom. I was ready for solitude, sun, and peace — and OK, a little glam.
I booked a three-night stay at Parker Palm Springs. It was definitely a hormonal impulse buy, and my last of the kind (these days I’m saving for my 7-year-old’s college education). But I don’t regret it.
My doctor confirmed that women with healthy pregnancies are fine to fly up to 36 weeks. Specifically, the best time for pregnant women to take off is between 14 and 28 weeks. I was right in the middle, so the next thing I knew, I found myself in a hot, sunny paradise lined with palm trees and dusty sand trails and bubbling, natural hot springs.