Flirt Across America: New York City
Carrie Bradshaw found her guy in New York, and you can, too. (AP Photo/Warner Bros., Craig Blankenhorn)
Yahoo Travel Associate Editor Greg Keraghosian spent several years as a professional dating coach for men (no, we can’t believe it, either). For those interested in romance or at least a little fun when they travel, this is a series where he examines the flirting terrain for women and men in cities around the world.
In our first installment of Flirt Across America, we assured men visiting Seattle that a little charm can go a long way toward meeting an attractive stranger despite an unfriendly gender ratio that’s heavy on tech dudes. As we look toward New York City, we go the Full Beyoncé and sing a song for the ladies.
I’ve seen firsthand the intimidating landscape for women in the Big Apple. And to be real for just a minute, I can understand why — for sheer volume, this is the Costco of good-looking, intelligent women. It alters my perspective when I visit from my man-centric home of San Francisco, and I know it affects other guys in the city.
A Manhattan friend of mine, who’s single, successful, and in his mid-30s, explained to me the difficulty of simply choosing one woman among so many. And despite how he might sound here, trust me when I say he’s one of the good guys and treats women well: “I pull 25-year-olds here. How am I supposed to settle down when there’s another dime around the corner?”
What some people think it’s like for all men in New York (Photo: Thinkstock)
Or take another guy I know, a former student of mine in San Francisco who moved across country to Chelsea, mainly for the better dating odds. When I asked him how New York women were different from those in S.F., his two-word answer was, “They try.” After having a fun time dating multiple women for a year, he’s now happily living with his girlfriend in Brooklyn.
Meanwhile, New York women decry a perceived gender imbalance, going so far as to board a jet the other direction for dates in San Francisco. When I asked a New York woman, 24-year-old writer Zoe Mendelson, about what it’s like there, she had this to say:
“I think it’s clear to all girls that there is an abundance of gorgeous women in NYC and that can be intimidating. I think the men do have it kind of easy. I’m not sure how women handle it, but I know they do complain about it. I once had a guy tell me, ‘Finding pretty girls in NYC is like shooting fish in a barrel.’ And I resented him so much for saying that because it was true.”