Strong and independent women can sometimes get a bad rap, which is bullsh*t. We're seen as intimidating or too assertive, while men who have the same qualities are often celebrated. Of course, not everyone has a negative view of this kind of woman, but there are a few things that need to be clarified. Just because we're self-sufficient and know what we want doesn't mean we're any less capable of compassion or love. In fact, I argue that we make the best kind of partners. So, before you make any inaccurate assumptions about strong women, see five common misconceptions.
1. They don't do relationships.
An independent woman knows how to love; she's just selective about who she allows into her life. It has nothing to do with ego, either. She doesn't want to waste her time with someone who doesn't see her worth or doesn't meet her standards. When the right partner comes along, she's open to exploring the possibilities.
2. They don't get insecure.
Just because she's very sure of herself doesn't mean she doesn't have moments of low self-esteem or self-doubt. She's just like everyone else and experiences the same kind of insecurities from time to time. She may not show it, but know that beneath the surface, her confidence can have cracks.
3. They're selfish.
Sorry, but when did focusing on your own passions and needs become a bad thing? People need to know the difference between selfishness and focus. She's not disregarding those around her; she knows when to make herself a priority and when to take a step back. She's assertive and goes after what she wants and isn't afraid to stand against those who get in the way of reaching her goals.
4. They're cocky.
Confidence and cockiness are different. She's proud of who she is but never does she think she's better than anyone else. She values herself and doesn't take sh*t from people who try to bring her down, but she's also aware of the importance of humility.
5. They're mean.
You might get the impression that she can be a bit intimidating, but that shouldn't equate to her being disrespectful or inconsiderate of others. And if she's serious in the workplace, it's called being professional. Women in general don't have to be all smiles and rainbows in order to be considered "nice." Strong and independent women don't care about being liked - they care about being taken seriously.