If You Need Help Inspecting Your Dating App Messages For Red Or Green Flags, We're Here To Help

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We've all been there. You match with someone new on a dating app, and you strike up a conversation hoping to get to know them. But, somewhere along the way, you pause and wonder where the conversation is headed. What vibes are they putting out there? Are there any red (or green) flags you're not clocking?

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finger swiping on a dating app photo

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Sometimes it can be hard to analyze a conversation (or even an opening message!) and ~assess the vibes~ objectively on your own, so it's nice to have a neutral third party weigh in. That's where I come in!!

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woman sitting down waving at someone

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I'm Hannah, and I'm currently living and dating in New York City. I'm on Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, and Raya. I've also done some dating in North Carolina, Los Angeles, and Ireland. I'm by no means an expert, but I've seen some stuff, and I've had my fair share of dating app successes and failures.

elaine on seinfeld asking if 95% of the population is undateable and jerry waving his arm and saying, undateable
elaine on seinfeld asking if 95% of the population is undateable and jerry waving his arm and saying, undateable

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In addition, I've covered a wide array of relationship content on the site! From advice columns to red and green flags to bad dates to my own personal dating app horror stories, I've dabbled in it all.

man sitting at a desk and saying, i'm not stupid red flags
man sitting at a desk and saying, i'm not stupid red flags

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So, here I am. I'm just a girl, sitting in front of a computer, asking a bunch of internet strangers to send me their dating app DMs. Do you need help deciphering what your match is saying? Do you need help assessing whether or not your match is giving off "red flag energy"? Do you need help deciding if something is love-bombing or just general human kindness? Let me take a crack at it.

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closeup of a man saying hmmm

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Wait, really? Yes, really. Here's a form RIGHT HERE where you can drop screenshots and give me some context if you'd like. Or, you're welcome to DM me your screenshots on Instagram @hannahdobrogosz. For privacy's sake, all submissions will remain anonymous, and any names or photos featured in screenshots will be blurred or crossed out! Your submissions may appear in a BuzzFeed Community post or video, so stay tuned!