Mother, son graduate together from UW-Stout

Jan. 6—MENOMONIE — Twenty-three years after leaving college to become a mom, Mara Harter shared a commencement stage with her first-born son, Jacob, as both graduated with their bachelor's degrees on Dec. 18 from UW-Stout.

"I am so excited," said Mara, of Sauk City. "Jacob's and my journey has been a unique one. I had him during my fourth year of my first attempt at my undergraduate degree at UW-Eau Claire. I wholeheartedly took a break from college to be a full-time stay-at-home mom.

"To finally receive my bachelor's degree alongside him brings the last 23 years full circle. I am so proud to have navigated the challenges of college financial aid, registering, midterms and finals with him and having him walk me through so many things. I am so proud of him and cannot believe how fortunate I am to graduate right next to him."

Mara earned her degree in special education with a certification from kindergarten to age 21. Jacob graduated with a degree in industrial design.

"It's really cool to have had the chance to graduate with my mom," Jacob said. "Everyone graduates with their closest friends, roommates and sometimes siblings, but getting to graduate with my mom is super cool."

Jacob, 23, started at UW-Stout in 2016 and chose the university because industrial design seemed like a good fit for him.

Despite graduating with different majors, the two Harters were given the opportunity to walk together at commencement.

Mara decided three years ago to return to college after being a stay-at-home mom for 21 years and raising five children, including Maggie, 21, Colden, 18, Gabe, 16, and Sleigh, 13.

She resumed her education after taking a full-time job at the middle school in Sauk Prairie where her husband, Ted, is the principal. She also picked up part-time work as a server at a local brewery.

She worked 60 hours a week and focused on her college education.

"I had to let my kids become a little more self-sufficient than I thought they could be. I allowed myself to cry, to become frustrated, but also to lean on others, use the resources I had to help and mostly allowed myself to recognize I was trying to do something amazing," Mara said. "My children were watching every move I was making and told me a million times how proud they were of me. My husband was so supportive of me every step of the way and wiped my tears and cheered me on."

She chose UW-Stout because it was on the list of schools that offered Wisconsin licensure and because her son was enrolled.

As part of her UW-Stout experience, Mara went to Cozumel, Mexico, with the study abroad program.

"I had never been away more than a few days, did not speak Spanish and had never been out of the country," she said. "I was able to teach in this beautiful area, learn about their culture, and I made the conscious decision to say yes to every opportunity I had down there. I have since been there three more times, once solo, once with my husband and once with my youngest daughter," she said.

"I formed a deep connection with the island. I keep traveling with different people to share with them what I love about it," Mara said. "It was the cliché 'life-changing experience' and was something I never would have done if I had not gone back to school. It has been a strong force behind the person I am today. I am looking forward to my fifth trip in February."

Mara is very proud that she took the chance to return and finish her degree.

"I have been able to identify with the challenges kids these days face with school, work, family, extracurricular activities and balancing them all. That I have finished is literally the most difficult thing I could have done," she said. "I feel prepared to help support my children and students in their academic journeys."