Ryan Emberley/amfAR/Getty Lana Condor, Anthony De La Torre
The To All The Boys I've Loved Before star, 25, opened up to PEOPLE about her beau at the Longchamp Dinner to celebrate the Fall/Winter 2022 collection, which includes its Box-Trot handbag, held Thursday at a private residence designed to resemble a Swiss chalet, in Hollywood Hills.
"He makes me feel safe," Condor says. "I'm curious and adventurous, but I also value safety. I think I felt really safe with him and I felt protected and I felt like I could be myself and be whole with him."
Condor got engaged to the actor-musician in January. "I feel the most balanced than I have in such a long time," she notes. "I think a lot of it comes from the commitment I made to my partner in becoming his wife and seeing a future and a family with him. I see that so clearly since he proposed."
Although she has said she didn't foresee a long engagement, the realities of buying a house and planning a wedding have crept in.
"We are changing our plans in real-time, mainly because we're in the process of buying a home," Condor explains. "Weddings are expensive; homes are expensive. It probably will be pushed a little bit, because we're changing the venue a bit."
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De La Torre is doing his part to make things run smoothly.
Owen Kolas & Marc Patrick/BFA.com Lana Condor
"He is such an active partner in this whole wedding, if not more than I am in the whole wedding planning situation," Condor tells PEOPLE. "It feels like a testament to how our married life will be. I want him to be super present in everything that I do, so that's been really great to see."
She adds, "I'm very, very stressed about the wedding, but it's a very fun experience."
Condor admits she and De La Torre trade clothes, and plan to share the black leather jacket designed by Longchamp that she wore to the event.
"We're very much partners in love, fashion, food — everything," she says.
When it comes to Longchamp, "their design aesthetic speaks to me from an emotional standpoint," says Condor, who sported the Box-Trot handbag at the event. "When I was a child, my mom gave me their classic, classic Pliage bag. I used it as my school tote, so the brand reminds me of family and of the adventures that I went on with this bag and my love for my mother."