Knowing When To Walk Away, And 11 More Ways LGBTQ+ People Can Practice Self-Care During The Holidays
According to the Human Rights Campaign, 2021 has been the highest recorded year for "fatal violence against the transgender and gender non-conforming community" in the US since it started tracking it in 2013. Many queer and transgender people find themselves in awkward situations when going home, or not feeling welcome. Here are some ways you can make sure to take care of yourself this holiday season.
1.Listen to your body
Whether you're wearing a binder under your Christmas sweater or showing off your new body, it is very important to listen to your body! Remember that all trans bodies are beautiful! All queer bodies are beautiful! All bodies are beautiful! Don't forget to take breaks from wearing a binder or uncomfortable clothes. (Please bind safely and responsibly.)
2.Dress for yourself
There might be a lot of pressure to dress how your family wants you to, but if it's safe to do so, make sure to dress for yourself. It might take some time for people to get used to your new look, but they're blessed to be seeing the REAL you.
3.Find a comfort show, song, album, movie, etc.
Your favorite "Girl in Red" song could come in handy when you need a way to plug in and escape. Entertainment can make us feel seen or distract us from the world we see above the screen.
4.PLANTS!!!
This hobby has lots of benefits to it! Getting your hands dirty and taking care of plants could boost your energy and produce oxygen in your space!
5.Be creative
Grab a paintbrush or a guitar! You don't have to be an artist to make art; express how you're feeling and delve into your creative outlet.
6.Remember a mantra
Have a mantra to repeat to yourself just in case. Family members like to challenge LGBTQ+ identities, and having a reminder to repeat to yourself could help. One example is repeating, "I am enough," or, "I am exactly who I need to be."
7.BREATHE!
You're most likely going to be in stressful situations, because let's face it: The holidays are filled with a lot of anxiety! Having a go-to breathing exercise can help calm your nerves and focus on what's important, YOU!
8.Connect with your body
Some days it can be hard to just get out of bed, but on your "bones day" make sure to move your body! Dancing, running, walking, etc. — do what feels right and joyful for your body.
9.Chosen family
Remember that sometimes family doesn't have to be who you are born with. If you don't feel safe being around your family, surround yourself with friends who love and support you.
10.Know when to walk away
Follow your gut; if being around your family is too much, it's too much. Your mental health is the priority. Always have a backup plan if you're able to.
11.Connect with your therapist
Not everyone is able to have a therapist, but if you are, connecting with your therapist can be incredibly helpful. Setting up a plan for the holidays and expressing what could cause you anxiety can be very useful.
12.And finally, know when to ask for help
You may feel hopeless during the holidays, your identity might feel invalidated, and maybe you feel alone. You are not alone — you are loved. If you need to talk to someone, please check out these LGBTQ+ friendly suicide prevention hotlines...
