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DEAR AMY: I am a mother of four boys. One is on his own, two are living with their father (my ex) and one is living with me and his dad. The problem is that my two boys (ages 13 and 12) had problems with my boyfriend about three years ago and moved in with their dad. My boyfriend (whom I live with) and my 3-year-old son want to move to upstate New York, but I don't want to leave the other boys here. I don't know what to do, and I'd appreciate your objective advice. Torn DEAR TORN: My objective advice is for you not to leave your children (again). From the scant information you offer, it seems that you have already chosen your boyfriend over your two sons during their early adolescence. Leaving
Dear Amy: This past year, I made a new friend with the mother of a child in my daughter's class. “Christina” is intelligent, interesting and funny. I very much enjoy her company, and our children get along great. Sounds perfect, right? Except for this: Christina is constantly inviting us to do things, only to cancel. She cancels at least three-quarters of the activities we plan. She will solicit our attendance, and then (usually at the last minute) remember something else she had planned, or her daughter will be too tired or not interested anymore, etc. I understand that things with kids can be dicey. I know it's normal for children this age to be fickle. The thing that bothers me is that this
It's mid-morning, and you're a thousand miles away from home when your phone rings. The caller ID tells you it's your kids' school, and your stomach drops. It's been a week since Parkland, and only two days since the police declared a lockdown at your kids' school after a credible threat was phoned in. In a minute, you'll find out that this isn't that worst nightmare. It's a different one. You'll turn your car around and drive back to the airport to catch the next flight home, and you'll forget to eat both lunch and dinner because you're using the entirety of your brain to try to make sense of what you've just heard. You'll arrive back home after everyone is asleep, then lie awake for hours cycling