Just Listen - Porndemic ...Coming Soon to a Computer Near You
With the recent revelation ofSEC staffers downloading pornand the fact that porn sites are among the most visited sites on the Internet, I thought it might be helpful to share what I have heard over the years from men in high pressure jobs about what porn does for them.
What's the solution? One solution is what we tell our children and whatwewere told in kindergarten... "Use your words." What that means is that we should have a person or person(s) in our lives that we can go to and not only vent about what went wrong today, i.e. "I can't believe what that miserable &$% said to me today" "What a f%$#in a$#hole so and so is," but how we feel underneath, i.e. "I'm scared that I can't keep doing what I'm doing" "I felt so incompetent today" "I felt so trapped today."
When you get past venting and get to emotionally exhaling*andfeel cared about when you do, that's the kind of relief that keeps on giving and makes pornography less of a compulsion and temptation.
* learning to listen to others in a way that enables them to emotionally exhale is the core theme in"Just Listen"(AMACOM, $24.95) which explains why as the subtitle says, "It's the secret to getting through to absolutely anyone."
Why Men Use Porn (and How to Get Yours to Stop)
