Stop us if this sounds familiar: you're in a relationship with someone who's just plain bad for you. You fight all the time, you're constantly complaining about each other, and your friends and family members can't stand them. But every time you think about breaking up (and you think about it a lot), you just can't bring yourself to do it, because it just seems like more effort to leave than to stay.

If this is the case, then you're probably trapped in a toxic relationship. It can be difficult to know if the relationship itself is actually toxic, or if you're just going through a rough patch. “You are going to have bad days and so is your partner. Happy couples still have bad days. What they do is solve problems and they don’t make it personal when they encounter challenges,” Kevin Gilliland, PsyD., executive director of the counseling service Innovation360, tells MensHealth.com.

But if you've been struggling with your relationship for a long time, and you find that your partner is making you feel worthless, stupid, or small, that's a huge problem - and you need to take drastic action. Here are 9 signs to help you determine if you’re in a toxic relationship - and what you can do about it.