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By Cathleen Miller
Have you turned over every stone possible on your journey to getting pregnant?
According to Mayo Clinic’s Dr. Jani Jensen, diet, stress, age, and genetics all play a role in the success or failure of your conception efforts. More than ever, eager parents are searching for new ways to reach that magic plus sign revealing their precious baby is on its way.
Although most women analyze their ovulation cycle, hormones, and many additional physical factors to optimize fertility conditions, non-physical factors are often overlooked when figuring out how to get pregnant. And these powerful and important mental and emotional factors trump physical factors every time.
Working through a medical intuitive lens, fertility issues show up in unique ways that often reveal more subtle energetic disruptions at work. New integrative fertility techniques are now reaching mainstream and improving conception odds with a more holistic approach.
So if you’re struggling to get pregnant, here are three surprising factors possibly holding you back from successful conception:
1. You (or your partner) are simultaneously choosing and resisting conception. This often occurs when one, or both, of you is quietly questioning the relationship on a subconscious level. While one of you is ready to get the bun in the oven, the other has mild to extreme resistance to staying married, parenting, or the idea of “family” in general. Either way, this can manifest cellularly as low sperm count, weak uterine lining, etc.
2. You have unresolved sexual trauma or relationship issues. Some of my fertility clients have cleared early life sexual trauma, abortion trauma, and challenging relationship issues that resulted in a healthy and very joyful pregnancy shortly after.
Traumas negatively affect the body at a cellular level, causing emotional grid lock in multiple ways. Erica Berman PhD says fertility can prove quite challenging for anyone who has experienced sexual abuse. Finding a supportive space to release repressed memories, forgive the self, and find support to move into a more balanced emotional space creates a new foundation for healthy conception today.
3. You have a soul agreement to adopt, use a surrogate, or come into parenthood in a non-biological way. Although, on the personal level you may yearn for a child from your own body; sometimes, on a deeper conscious level you’ve already committed with a foster or surrogate-carried child whom you can bond with just as strong, if not deeper than a biological child.
Often family pressure, social programming, and your own fears block your “true child” from becoming a possibility. E! News correspondent Giuliana Rancic has publicly shared her own beautiful truth of how working with a surrogate allowed her and husband Bill to have their son Duke.
No matter what you have been through on your quest for parenthood, know that every step provides you rich clarity to reach your vision of a happy family.
Trust that you’re going in the right direction. You may even consider working with a quality traditional or alternative practitioner to guide you in your process.
After working intuitively with countless fertility clients who have done multiple rounds of IVF (in addition to other routes and modalities), one thing for certain is that aside from obvious physical factors, there are equally (if not more) relative non-physical factors that are part of the conception equation.
Cathleen is a Holistic Medium TM Practitioner guiding clients around the world into greater wellness, relationship, fertility and success.
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