10 Tips for Moms of Preemies, From Moms of Preemies

Each year, 15 million babies are born too early. These little guys certainly cover a broad spectrum; while a preemie is technically defined as a baby born earlier than 37 weeks of completed gestation, 24 weeks — maybe even closer to 22 weeks — is considered viable.

We’re also recognizing the parents who are caring for these preemies. The NICU isn’t an easy place to spend your time. But take it from moms who have been there; you will get through it. Here, The Bump users offer tips for coping with the first days and weeks following preterm birth.

1. Take the ride

“Absolutely take whoever is offering rides to the hospital up on their offers. However, you may need to let them know that you want some alone time with baby. I found it very exhausting and frustrating to try to arrange for everyone to hold them and feed them, etc. I was trying to ‘reward’ them for being so kind to give me rides that I missed out on crucial bonding time with baby.”

2. Dive right in

“Get as involved as you can with feedings, diaper changes, etc. Even if baby is sleeping, just being there in the NICU good for both of you.”

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3. Write things down

“For your time alone at home, definitely think about keeping a journal. A few months from now, these NICU days will be a complete blur. It’s a great way to vent all of the raging emotions you’re dealing with, which is better than keeping them all bottled up. And it will be a good way to remember this crazy time.”

4. Try skin-to-skin

“When you’re visiting baby at the hospital, ask to do as much kangaroo care as possible. If they’re not suggesting it, be vocal and ask for it. Because it’s really powerful for helping with your emotions, and it’s good for baby too. If your baby’s not up for it, still connect and bond with her by talking quietly to baby, reading aloud or humming/singing lullabies. She’ll love hearing your voice.”

5. Use it as a learning experience

“The nurses taught me, a first time mom, how to take care of my baby. I’m a lot more confident now.”

6. Pump with a purpose

“If you’re able to, pump breast milk. I felt so helpless when my boy was in the NICU but being able to provide him breast milk made me feel like I could do something. Your hospital will probably have a pump you can rent.”

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7. Put yourself on WebMD probation

“Don’t start Googling or searching blogs about conditions unless you’ve found a very reputable source. The internet is full of the worst-case stories and they will terrify you.”

8. Learn your doctor’s schedule

“Try to be available when the doctors do rounds so you can ask questions and understand the course of action.”

9. Celebrate each step

“The one positive I know that comes from this besides our special miracles is that we will appreciate everything so much more and know how big of a deal each milestone is!”

10. Take a break

“When you’ve had enough of the NICU, allow yourself a break without feeling guilty. The NICU can be a very isolating place and wears on you. A refreshed mama is the best mama.” Anisa Arsenault

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