Couples react to gay marriage decisions
This morning, as my wife returned home from work, and as I prepared for my usual work day, in the few minutes we typically have to say hello and kiss goodbye as I head out the door, we were able to sit together to absorb the monumental SCOTUS rulings on DOMA and Prop 8.
Over the last 24 hours, I have experienced every emotion possible over the anticipation of the outcome: anger, anxiousness, confusion, restlessness, happiness, excitement, eagerness, peacefulness, love. After hearing the rulings, I let out a sigh of relief, tears of joy streamed and in that moment I felt simply elated.
Let me say that these rulings do not hold any weight in the validity of our love or our union, as our bond is heartfelt and driven; no one could ever tell us otherwise. However, what the rulings did solidify for us is that we are human beings, with rights, and to be respected as such, as equals among our peers. We feel that at its core, the rulings send an even bigger message to our youth and generations to come: It is OK to be gay, your human rights are important, you can love and be loved, and it DOES get better!
Not only are we excited for those in states where same-sex marriage is legal, knowing that the more than 1,100 additional rights being bestowed upon them will afford them the legal safeguards granted in heterosexual marriages, but we are ecstatic about the Prop 8 decision to dismiss the appeal! We can, very soon, be legally married in the state in which we reside. Prop 8 was the most insulting and degrading law to live in the shadows of. We love our state, and we love our family, friends and neighbors! Yet to know that something of this nature was actually voted upon by people we pass on the streets daily, people who we may interact with at work, church, in social settings—this was the part that was the most disturbing to us. There was no rhyme or reason for such hate but to inflict pain and to discriminate.
Today we are stronger as a whole. Today our hearts are a bit lighter from any burdens that were there yesterday. Today we stand together with our friends and family in unison, as equals. Today is a day forever ingrained in history! Hate will not prevail because LOVE WINS!
—Tamara, 37, right, and Cheryllanne, 33, Abrio, of San Diego, married Oct. 11, 2012