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Tiffany Haddish is a comedian, so while she keeps it real, she also likes to laugh. When asked about the biggest thing she's learned this year, the 42-year-old shared a relatable lesson on coping with grief with Woman's Day.
"I've learned a lot about grief. I've lost a lot of people in my life, but this year, for some reason, it's been the hardest for me," she says. "I've learned that if you can't laugh about what's hurting — if you can't find a way to make it funny or laugh about it — you'll never heal from it."
To help process her emotions and wind down at the end of a long day, Haddish has a few go-to self-care habits. "At night, I like to write in my journal. Especially if it's been a rough day," she says.
"If I'm still upset or irritated after that, I will go ahead and I'll put on YouTube videos of babies laughing. That's the main thing that changes my vibe. And usually it's hard for me to go to sleep if I'm upset. So I journal, if I'm still in my feelings, the videos of babies laughing," she continues. "Sometimes I can't laugh. Sometimes I've lost so much and I'm so sad that I'm just like there's no way," Haddish admits. "And then I'm like, 'babies laughing.'"
Speaking of babies, Haddish hopes she can use her own experiences and her platform to encourage young kids to accept themselves, especially with all the examples onscreen and on social media that may make them think otherwise. She recently published her first children's book, Layla, the Last Black Unicorn, which Haddish says teaches the lessons of not being ashamed of who you are or where you come from. "Be proud of that, because that's what makes you special and awesome," she says.
"I wanted to write a children's book because I wanted to inspire children to know that it's OK to be different and unique. That you don't have to change who you are," she says. "In society today, you turn on the TV and you see somebody looking one way and then the next day they've got super big lips and a big old butt, and all this stuff. I'm just like, 'Why are you doing this to yourself? What are we doing here?' I want kids to know that it's OK to come out into the world the way that you are. That there's something unique about that... I don't know exactly why God gives us the things that God gives us, but it's for a reason."
Haddish has also written a memoir (for adults), The Last Black Unicorn. Her second memoir, I Curse You With Joy, is set to be released on November 29 and is available for pre-order now. "It picks up where the last one left off, and I'm putting more of how I feel about things in there," she reveals. "You're hearing more about my thought process, how I think about things. Which is probably very different [from the first memoir], but maybe not. Who knows? They're thoughts!"
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