by Gena Kaufman
Since Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin split (and introduced "conscious uncoupling" into the cultural lexicon), they've stayed fairly quiet. But in a recent interview with BBC radio, Chris Martin is speaking out with a little insight into the reason behind their separation…and it seems he's taking a lot of the blame himself.
Speaking in the third person, he seemed to compliment his wife:
"This was more a realization about trying to grow up basically… if you can't open yourself up, you can't appreciate the wonder inside. So you can be with someone very wonderful, but because of your own issues you cannot let that be celebrated in the right way."
And then he went on to describe his own fears and how they affected his relationship:
"What changed for me was, I don't want to go through life being scared of it, being scared of love, being scared of rejection, being scared of failure… About two years ago I was a mess really because I can't enjoy the thing that we are good at and I can't enjoy the great things around me because I'm burdened by this--I've got to not blame anyone else and make some changes."
And finally, he talked about his inability to open up:
"Up to a certain point in my life I wasn't completely vulnerable and it caused some problems. If you don't let love really in then you can't really give it back."
What do you think of Chris' statements on their marriage? Have you ever been with a guy with similar issues, or felt the same way yourself?