15 Stories About Why People Divorced Their High School Sweetheart That Are Very Honest
We recently asked the divorcees of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the breaking point in their marriage to their high school sweethearts. Here are some of their insightful stories:
1."After seven years together, he basically called me stupid. I’d just graduated college cum laude and he had just been kicked out of his second college due to poor grades. He also wound up being a pathological liar. I dodged a bullet for sure."
2."I met my ex at 13 and we started dating when we were 15. We got married right out of high school and it lasted for two years. We got divorced because, in the span of a six-month period, he got me pregnant, laughed about my miscarriage, cheated on me, and then got a different girl pregnant."
3."My husband realized he was gay when I was six months pregnant with our first child."
4."I've known my ex since eighth grade and we started dating as high school seniors. We were married for 18 years and had two children, a big house, and a pretty good life (I thought). My husband started photography as a new hobby. It became an obsession with him, I wasn't wild about it but did want to support his interest. He was doing a lot of shoots with young women. They were senior pictures and boudoir shots. Unbeknownst to me, he often did shoots with underage girls where he took nude shots without showing their nudity."
"It would be things like them sitting with their back to the camera and something draped across their back. Anyway, he had an affair with a girl half my age who was still a minor. He got her pregnant and they got married. Their parents both agreed to a marriage because of the pregnancy. It was completely over for me. He thought I'd somehow be okay with him having both of us. Um, NO!! It was incredibly gross. She was only a few years older than my youngest child."
5."I met my ex-husband when I was 16. By age 30, we had basically become roommates. I knew it was over when my doctors diagnosed me with a probable brain tumor. They ordered a CT scan to confirm and determine its size and location. Every single friend who knew I was getting results called me that day. My husband..."forgot." I moved out the next day."
6."The breaking point in our marriage was when I realized he was never going to stand up to his horrible mother and grandmother. They liked me at first but once our first child was born and I no longer did whatever they asked freely, the problems started. His mother would lie about where he was to try to start problems, and he wouldn't stand up to her."
—Anonymous
7."He felt he missed out on the opportunity to go out and enjoy his 20s. In reality, he got too close to a co-worker and fell for her. She got married to her fiance, and he left me and is still alone to this day. He also forgot to mention to me that when we got married the forever part was optional in his mind."
—Anonymous
8."I wanted a family and always had wanted one. He didn't want the responsibilities that came with having kids, especially having to work full-time. Ultimately, we just grew apart and nothing, not even marriage counseling, could fix the fact that we wanted different things out of life."
—Anonymous
9."We waited until our early 30s to have a baby. I was ready. He was ready. Within the first year, my ex began using his job as an excuse to not be with me and his son. He had been the baby in the family and had been treated as such. Even I spoiled him. He constantly made excuses to not spend time with his son. His mom realized he was jealous. Eventually, I asked him to leave and after two years of him telling me he wasn’t quite ready to come back, I divorced him. His parents were our rock. They still are. He's remarried. He and his wife are both very selfish and our now 17-year-old son wants nothing to do with them."
—Anonymous
10."I married my first real boyfriend from high school. We got married at 22. We were young and having fun with our huge group of friends but we rarely just spent time together. When he proposed I felt that it was the next step, not really thinking about how I felt. Once we were married he became very controlling and manipulating. My breaking point was after he spent hundreds of dollars on whatever he wanted but he wouldn't let me buy a shirt or basic toiletries, called them luxuries, and cut up my ATM card when I did buy them."
"I worked more hours for more money, but that didn't matter. I realized I still had my whole life ahead of me if I left then, at 24. So I did and never looked back. Now I am 37, married to someone I truly love, and have two beautiful children. I am so glad 24-year-old me was brave enough to start over."
—Anonymous
11."I made the mistake of marrying him for promises that he couldn’t keep and potential he had in high school that didn’t translate to adulthood. He ran up his credit card debt, used up our joint savings, and went out a lot after we had our child. Thankfully. I had my own accounts so I could keep paying half the bills and buy food. He wanted someone to do everything for him. I wasn’t strong enough to leave but he did. The next year I went back to university and got a promotion. The single mom life is treating me much better than married life ever did."
—Anonymous
12."My high school sweetheart and I got married while I was in college and he was in the army. We had two kids and a nice life. We were married for almost 10 years when he told me he wasn’t happy with our life and I was the reason why. Turned out he just doesn’t know how to be happy. After he told me he wasn’t happy, he cheated on me with our friend and moved out when she kicked her husband out. They started officially dating before our divorce was final."
—Anonymous
13."I went to the gyno for a checkup and turned out I had HPV. Which was odd considering I'd only ever had sex with my husband. Turned out he'd been cheating on me with a stripper."
—Anonymous
14."I started dating my ex-husband in our senior year of high school. We dated for seven years, were married for seven years, and had three kids. I knew the marriage was over because he cheated multiple times. The last straw was him cheating on me while I was pregnant with our last child. He failed to apologize for it and had zero remorse."
—Anonymous
15.And lastly, "He still wanted to party all the time like when we were 21. What we don't realize in college is that a lot of drinking is alcoholism. Eventually that much alcohol started digging into our savings account. I paid off his secret loans that he kept taking out to fund his drinking. After spending $100K, the final secret credit card that showed up at the house put me over the edge. I should've left way sooner."
—Anonymous
