October's Aries Full Moon Will Make or Break Relationships

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October’s Aries Full Moon Will Make or Break Relationships
October’s Aries Full Moon Will Make or Break Relationships

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Although Libra season is usually marked by a push for balance and beauty, this year's was brimming with more confusion than the balance-seeking air sign would prefer, thanks to a doozy of a Mercury retrograde. And right on the heels of the communication planet going direct comes an intense, fiery full moon in Aries, the aggressive cardinal fire sign that sits opposite Libra.

If you weren't already itching to take bold action following three (plus) weeks of slowdowns and setbacks, this lunar event, occurring on October 20 at 10:56 a.m. ET/7:56 a.m., is primed to fuel major moves — especially if they're overdue in a relationship that's hit its breaking point.

The full moon in Aries will have you beyond ready to fulfill your most passionate desires.

Full moons — which happen when the confident sun exactly opposes the intuitive moon — always present a monthly opportunity to wrap up projects you started six months or even two weeks prior. They're culmination points, breaking points, and a chance to release anything that's no longer serving you. And with this month's full moon falling in assertive, go-balls-to-the-wall-or-go-home Aries, you could feel an elevated sense of urgency to boldly contend any emotional business.

Adding even more fuel to that fire is the fact that the moon will closely oppose Mars, the red planet that oversees action, courage, and energy, which is still in serenity-loving Libra. When the intuitive moon faces off against go-getter Mars, we can't help but be extra driven and empowered to get after our desires. And with the moon in Aries, which is a Mars-ruled sign, the need to take assertive action around something you're passionate about — an emotional conversation, a career goal — will be particularly intense and laced with impulsivity.

In fact, that devil-may-care approach could trip you up on your way to making a vision real, setting off conflicts and antagonism. The solution: Slow down as much as possible while keeping that inner fire ablaze.

Pluto sets up power struggles.

If that wasn't enough, the moon will form a tense, activating square to Pluto, the planet of death, rebirth, and transformation, in serious Capricorn, bringing underlying, toxic, emotional issues to the fore. You or people in your orbit could be tempted to contend with their deepest wounds in a compulsive, destructive way. Paranoia, jealousy, and manipulation are all themes of this planetary clash to boot.

In addition, on the full moon day, Mars will be moving toward its square to Pluto. This aspect magnifies the need to feel like you're in the driver's seat of any situation. And obviously, not everyone can be at once. So whether you experience this on the job, in a relationship, or while going about your daily routine, Mars (aggression and anger) clashes with Pluto (power), and we get massive power struggles. Attempts to one-up someone else — on the road, when it comes to office politics — could spiral into screaming matches and meltdowns. So yes, calling this moment "intense" is an understatement.

But by doing your best to get after what you want in a careful and thoughtful, versus impetuous, way, leaning into opportunities for transformation, and being unafraid to burn down anything that is no longer serving you, this full moon could mark a gratifying turning point.

Here, how this Aries full moon will affect you, based on your sign. (Pro-tip: Be sure to read both your sun and your rising sign, if you know it. If you don't, you can find it on your natal chart or via this CafeAstrology calculator.)

Aries (March 21-April 19)

With the full moon falling in your sign, you'll be extra fired up to make moves toward hitting a major personal goal — and might need to work through some deep-rooted emotions if things don't play out as you're envisioning.

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

With the full moon in your twelfth house of spirituality, you could be aggravated that all the moving parts to make a big picture dream a reality are still in the works. But you'll benefit from turning inward now.

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

The full moon is in your eleventh house of networking, stirring up tensions and endgame moments with a team or group you associate with. It could be time to end a particular chapter in regard to friendships or coworking relationships.

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

Falling in your tenth house of career, you want that well-deserved recognition for putting your nose to the grindstone and are willing to go to uncharacteristic lengths to make it happen. But it's worth slowing down and reflecting on the "why."

Leo (July 23-August 22)

The full moon falls in your ninth house of adventure and higher learning, causing you to feel frustrated with the same old mundane routine you've been stuck in for who knows how long. You want to shake things up but doing so in a calculated way serves you best.

Virgo (August 23-September 22)

The full moon in your eighth house of emotional bonds and sexual intimacy is an opportunity to own and voice your deep-rooted needs and desires between the sheets. But healing might have to happen first.

Libra (September 23-October 22)

Because the full moon is in your seventh house of partnership, you might face power struggles and related showdowns with your S.O., a date, biz partner, or close friend. This lunar event will definitely test your usual commitment to keeping things copacetic, but it could be time to let that go in defense of your needs within a one-on-one bond.

Scorpio (October 23-November 21)

Thanks to the full moon falling in your sixth house of wellness and routine, you could be super-empowered to turn over a new leaf in your day-to-day hustle. You want change yesterday but would benefit most from a slow, calculating approach.

Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)

The full moon will be in your fifth house of romance and self-expression, so putting yourself out there and sharing what's in your heart in your signature unfiltered way will feel inevitable.

Capricorn (December 22-January 19)

The full moon is in your fourth house of home life, so you'll be tempted to put the pedal to the metal on any real estate moves, family relationship changes, or campaigns to boost your security in an uncharacteristically speedy way. But striving to stay balanced is the key to success.

Aquarius (January 20-February 18)

Falling in your third house of communication, you might feel spread way too thin in the days around this full moon — and truly aggravated as a result. The sooner you can check tedious to-dos off the list, the sooner you can dive into the activities you'd rather be focused on.

Pisces (February 19-March 20)

The full moon in your second house of income marks a chance to fervently get after your financial and security goals. Just be sure to read any emails, contracts, or paperwork over for errors, because trying to tackle money matters too hurriedly could result in a serious headache.