What Each Myers-Briggs Personality Type Needs Most From Romantic Relationships

ISTJ

You value: dedication

This type’s mantra may as well just be: “With hard work, anything is possible.” Just like the energy they put in at work and the value they place on friends and family, ISTJs are committed to their partners—and they need to find someone similarly dedicated to maintaining a strong relationship. Actions are everything to an ISTJ; consider them investments in a long-term future. Small efforts every day will encourage the ISTJ to keep their relationships strong.

ISFJ

You value: safety

ISFJs are used to feeling overlooked; they’re often the shy, quiet bookworm in any group, or the (silent) die-hard romantic. But they do want to be noticed and actually fall hard for a partner who makes them feel safe and loved. You can’t dole out enough positive reinforcement for an ISFJ, so keep up the encouragement to let the relationship blossom.

ESFJ

You value: enthusiasm

Whether it’s helping a sick friend or organizing a school fundraiser, ESFJs do everything with gusto. But they often end up in relationships where they give, give, give out of hope and promise and won’t accept it when a partner is simply not reciprocating in kind. ESFJs need to feel as though their partner is as committed and excited about the relationship as they are to fully be at peace. They need to hear ample words of encouragement and see an actual effort being put into making the bond work.

ESTJ

You value: teamwork

ESTJs are a “work hard, play hard” type, and while they will happily lead teams at the office, they want a true teammate in their romantic relationships. ESTJs prize being on the same page about long-term goals, and enjoy enthusiastic companionship for the hobbies and travels they love to pursue in their off time. ESTJs need to be straightforward—and avoid romantic games. They’re honest and thoughtful toward their partner, and do best in relationships where there’s a ton of clarity.