In this installment of Practical Magic, Lisa Stardust explains how to use magic to heal from a breakup. Always remember that magic is for believers, but this column can also simply serve as a guide to getting in touch with yourself — magically or not.
Love is exciting, glorious, and passionate… until it’s not. Unfortunately, we’ve all been there before. Anyone who has had to navigate the post-breakup blues can attest that heartbreak is one of the worst feelings ever, especially since it triggers so many different insecurities within ourselves.
The unavoidable side to being a human is that we love hard — which means that we can lose hard, as well. When it’s time to let go of a tough relationship, our hurting hearts can make the process that much more difficult. Luckily, there’s a magical cure to alleviate the pain.
When casting a spell to heal painful emotions, you have to really want to move on: no lurking IG, no checking in, no “you up” texts, no planning random encounters in which you “accidentally” bump into them at the local coffee shop. You have to want to move forward.
Here’s the magical instructions to mend a broken heart (make sure to follow them in order!):
First, it's best to do this spell during a Full Moon, which is a magical time of healing and letting go.
Clear out and get rid of your ex’s belongings. Don’t arrange a meetup with them — keep your boundaries strong by mailing it all to them. By holding on to their clothes, coffee mugs, or books, you are energetically keeping the relationship alive.
Those sheets that you slept on together in bed? Throw them in the spin cycle until you can no longer feel your ex-partner’s presence on them.
While being sure to practice fire safety, burn lavender and open a window to release the grief and trauma of the breakup. Fresh air can also help you find solace in your post-relationship emotions, pull you out of your funk, and bring you a wave of calm.
Next, try visualization. Imagine a bunch of cords tethered in a knot placed between you and your ex. Using mindful meditation, separate the cords that are stuck together. Identify which ones are the unhealthy ones, and which aren’t. Then imagine the cords dissipating, and try cutting them out of your energetic field. This is a way to remove toxic people and situations from your life for good, as you are giving them no energy to feed off of.
Tie two pieces of black thread together (one piece of thread representing you and the other representing your ex) and cut it in half. Practicing fire safety, light a black candle to rid yourself of their energetic hold on your heart. This will sever the emotional ties that you’re holding onto from the relationship, and will help you move on.
This should be followed with a cleansing bath with Epsom salt to cleanse your auric field, pink quartz crystals to heal the heart chakra, and Florida Water for purification.
Finally, light a white candle with your name carved into it to reignite the joy within yourself and to mend your emotional wounds. You can also light a pink candle with your name carved into it to attract a new romance — after all, there are more fish in the sea. Just be careful. You don’t want to end up rebounding hard.
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