Justin and Emily Baldoni share relationship ups and downs during quarantine

Justin and Emily Baldoni have been married for seven years and are quarantining during the coronavirus crisis with their two children.

The Baldonis shared that the crisis has helped shift their perspective on the world.

“Quarantine is the wild west. You can’t do it wrong, you can’t do it right,” says Justin.

“We’re forced to look at the things that maybe before we were not willing to look at,” says Emily.

She added, We really have been sent to our rooms to think about what we’ve done and hopefully we all learn a lot through this process.”

“We can all listen to the point where we don’t just hear but we actually act and all make changes,” says Justin.

He adds, “That’s kind of how I hope we all view this thing in 20 years--that we did something different afterwards.”

“Overall, this has been a very reflective and beautiful time for us to connect as a family,” Emily shares.

Video Transcript

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EMILY BALDONI: My name is Emily Baldoni.

JUSTIN BALDONI: And I am Justin Baldoni.

EMILY BALDONI: Our daughter Maya is almost five, and Maxwell is 2 and 1/2. And now we have a puppy.

JUSTIN BALDONI: Quarantine is-- it's the Wild West. There's no rule. You can't do it wrong. You can't do it right, even though all of us feel like we're doing it wrong.

EMILY BALDONI: Literally you cannot run away anymore. You can't go off to work and get distracted. We're forced to look at the things that maybe before we were not willing to look at.

Luckily, a tool that we use a lot and that we kind of mastered at this point is to communicate, and that's really what's helping us survive this without major meltdowns is that we can speak for each other. We know how to listen to each other, and we created a safe space to have these conversations.

You are allowed to ask for what you need, and I would say that especially to the women out there is that you can even go to your partner and say, hey, I have something very important to talk about. I would love for you to listen to me.

JUSTIN BALDONI: So in our conversation series-- we call it Man Enough-- what we're learning is we have to be willing to allowing our partners to know that not only are they heard but their feelings are validating, and I'm going to show you that they're validated by my actions.

One of the things that I know we've thought about a lot when this whole thing happened was like, wow, how lucky are we to have a house? The 65,000 people living on the streets of Los Angeles, like, what are they doing, and what are the city really doing?

So the Wayfarer Foundation is an organization I started about six years ago now. The next month or so, we're going to be feeding people on the streets. We're just trying to think beyond ourselves. I think that's been helping us as well, but it's important for us to, like, check how lucky we are and think about those who are not in the same position.

My optimistic view of this whole time for the world is that we'll look back and we'll remember the moment that unified our planet, that helped us reprioritize what mattered.

EMILY BALDONI: We really have been sent to our rooms to think about what we've done, and hopefully we all learned a lot through this process, whatever we had to learn. And those lessons are going to be different for everyone.

JUSTIN BALDONI: And maybe for human beings, they can learn what we talked about earlier, which is we can all listen to the point where we're not just here but we actually act and make it-- make changes. And maybe this is the chance for humanity to come together and to really listen--

EMILY BALDONI: Yeah.

JUSTIN BALDONI: --and then to wake up the next day and do something different. That's kind of how I hope we view this whole thing in 20 years, that we, like, did something different afterwards.

EMILY BALDONI: Overall, this has been a very reflective and beautiful time for us to connect as a family.