On Tuesday, Duffy, known for her 2008 hit single, “Mercy,” explained her decade-long hiatus from the spotlight. In a vulnerable Instagram post, she said her silence was due to past trauma.
“You can only imagine the amount of times I thought about writing this… Many of you wonder what happened to me, where did I disappear to and why,” the singer shared on Instagram. “The truth is, and please trust me I am ok and safe now, I was raped and drugged and held captive over some days.”
Duffy gained fame after releasing her debut album “Rockferry” in 2008, which included the single “Mercy.” Her hiatus began in 2011 after her second album “Endlessly” was released.
In her Instagram post, Duffy said last summer she connected with a journalist and was able to share her experiences. She revealed the interview would be released sometime in the next few weeks.
“You wonder why I did not choose to use my voice to express my pain?” she wrote. “I did not want to show the world the sadness in my eyes. I asked myself, how can I sing from the heart if it is broken? And slowly it unbroke.”
For those questioning why her recovery process took over 10 years, it’s important to remember recovery takes time and is different for every trauma survivor. As Mighty contributor Caitlin Neumann wrote in her article, “6 Things to Remind Yourself During Trauma Recovery” :
There is no time frame for healing. Many months of my recovery have been spent being crushed by the weight of expectations on the time frame of how fast I “should” heal. Just know that as long as you are doing everything you can to live a full life, that’s what matters. That’s what we’re all doing in life. You are doing what you can at this exact moment in time and that’s enough. That’s OK.
Duffy ended her Instagram post by asking for privacy and respect.
“Please respect this is a gentle move for me to make, for myself, and I do not want any intrusion to my family,” she wrote. “Please support me to make this a positive experience.”
If this news is difficult for you, you’re not alone. It’s OK to stay away from the news for a while to protect your mental health. If you or a loved one is affected by sexual abuse or assault and need help, call the National Sexual Assault Telephone Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 to be connected with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider in your area.
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