Here’s Exactly What Went Wrong in Kate and Meghan’s Relationship

Mehera Bonner
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From Cosmopolitan

Much like a zombie, Meghan Markle and Kate Middleton’s “royal feud” has once again ARRIVED, which I’m gonna go ahead and chalk up to 2020’s general vibes. The royal sisters-in-law are currently in the news thanks to an alleged row (that’s British for “fight”) they had ahead of Meghan’s wedding, so you might be innocently wondering how all their drama even started.

Literally, How. Long. Do. You. Have? This royal feud has been going on for almost two years with no signs of stopping, and honestly, it’s exhausting. Here’s a timeline of events to get you acquainted with all the dramajust keep in mind that “source” reports should be taken with a tiiiiiiiny grain of salt.

November 24, 2018

Meghan and Harry decide to leave Kensington Palace and move to Frogmore Cottage, and sources say that drama between the Sussexes and Cambridges had everything to do with it:

“There has been a bit of tension between the brothers. Now Harry and Meghan don’t want to live next to William and Kate and want to strike out on their own.”

November 27, 2018

A truly bombshell report breaks courtesy of The Telegraph: Two separate sources claim that Kate was “left in tears following a bridesmaids dress fitting for Princess Charlotte.” Intrigued? More on that in a second—by which I mean two years from now.

December 1, 2018

The Sun releases a story claiming that Meghan and Kate got into an “explosive row” after Meghan was allegedly rude to a member of Kate’s staff. At this point, the palace decides to step in and deny this fight ever happened.

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January 4, 2019

Us Weekly reports that Kate and Meghan aired out their drama over Christmas, with a source telling the magazine that “Kate opened up about feeling like Meghan had used her to climb the royal ladder,” while Meghan told Kate that she’d felt snubbed. Le yikes.

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March 13, 2019

Meghan and Kate are photographed kissing each other’s cheeks during Commonwealth Day, and a source tells Vanity Fair that it was a deliberate move for the cameras:

“They might not have a huge amount in common, but Kate has no issue with Meghan. She wants them to get along, not just for Harry’s sake but because two royal sisters-in-law at loggerheads wouldn’t be good, and Kate knows that. For Kate, it’s about keeping their relationship professional and putting on a show of togetherness.”

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March 29, 2019

Royal reporter Katie Nicholl reveals that Kate and Meghan have come to an “agreement” to get along and avoid dramatic headlines. Here’s what she told Glamour:

“I do know that Meghan and Kate have come to an agreement to get along, to make an effort, to be amiable and warm toward each other in public. They both realize it’s in neither of their interests to have these catfight headlines. It’s not what either of them want.”

April 21, 2019

Fans drag William and Kate for snubbing Meghan in this family photo:

Damn. A pretty glaring omission, not gonna lie.

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Photo credit: Instagram

June 26, 2019

Hot off the heels of news that the Fab Four split their royal charity, a source tells Us Weekly that “there were definitely issues with Meghan and Kate seeing eye to eye on how they wanted to run” things, with Meghan wanting “to be more involved” and Kate preferring to be “more hands off.”

July 18, 2019

Royal reporter Katie Nicholl drops the news that Kate and Meghan’s recent hang sessions (at a polo match and Wimbledon) were fully PR stunts. She told ET:

“There have been two major circumstances, which are very calculated and deliberate efforts to try and stem these rumors about a feud between the foursome. We saw it at the polo match where William and Harry were obviously playing together. We hadn’t expected the duchesses to turn up with their children. The fact that they did is a wonderful treat for royal watchers, but I think those candid pictures were quite deliberately intended to snuff out those rumors of the feud between the foursome. And you saw them all very close, very happy, very comfortable with each other.”

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July 25, 2019

PLOT TWIST: Sources tell Hello! magazine that Meghan and Kate are basically BFFs:

“Despite reports of a rift, they are family and have a really lovely friendship. Their relationship has certainly evolved over time and they have become closer since Meghan’s wedding….They talk and text regularly. They have more in common, and Kate has wanted to make sure Meghan has felt welcome into the family.”

August 3, 2019

Ugh, The Sun reports that Meghan doesn’t plan to invite Kate to her upcoming 38th birthday party at Frogmore Cottage. Gonna assume this one isn’t true.

September 18, 2019

A royal source tells Us Weekly that Meghan and Kate will “never be best friends, but they’re civil.” Progress, I guess?

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October 30, 2019

Kate reportedly reaches out to Meghan to offer some support amid her heartbreaking interview on royal tour—in which she basically admits that she’s been going through it. Royal expert and author Phil Dampier tells The Express:

“Behind the scenes, I’m told Kate is doing her best to bring everyone together and help Meghan. None of them want to let the Queen down so Kate is trying to patch things up in private. I’m told she has reached out to Meghan and spoken to her on the phone. Kate feels sorry for her and knows that Meghan is struggling.”

Here’s Meghan’s interview in case ya want to get an idea of what she was going through at the time:

January 9, 2020

While Meghan and Harry’s decision to step down from royal duties sends literally everyone spiraling, Kate celebrates her birthday by dropping a fresh photo of herself looking relaxed AF:

Meanwhile, William is pissed that his brother upstaged his wife’s big day: “Harry and Meghan rubbed salt into the wounds by making the huge announcement a day before Kate’s birthday,” a source tells Us Weekly. “It hasn’t gone down well with William.”

January 29, 2020

Us Weekly sources claim that Kate’s been “in a panic” and “having bouts of anxiety” following Harry and Meghan’s announcement that they’re stepping back from royal duties. Apparently, “she barely has time to rest,” while she and Meghan “couldn’t be further apart.”

March 11, 2020

The Fab Four make their final appearance together at the Commonwealth Day Service, and Vanity Fair royal reporter Katie Nicholl dishes on why Kate didn’t seem…thrilled. According to a source, “Kate has taken it all badly. She, Harry, and William were once such a happy trio. She thinks what has happened is all very sad.”

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May 4, 2020

A new book by Tom Quinn claims Meghan was unkind to one of Kate’s staffers, which led to their feud.

In an excerpt obtained by the Daily Mail, a source said, “Kate was horrified when Meghan shouted at a member of Kate’s staff—that was definitely the beginning of discussions about leaving Kensington Palace. Like many people not used to dealing with servants, Meghan overdoes the imperiousness; so on the one hand she wants to be like Diana, a people’s princess, and on the other she wants people to stand to attention when she clicks her fingers.”

Sources also alleged that Meghan struggled with having a lesser rank than William and Kate, saying, “I think she has found that difficult to deal with. And although Harry loved their cottage in the grounds, Meghan was conscious that it was tiny in comparison to the vast apartment complex where Kate and William live.”

May 26, 2020

Tatler drops an explosive new cover story about Kate, in which her “friends” (get new friends, girl!) tell the mag that she is “furious” about her increased workload thanks to Meghan and Harry ditching their royal duties and that “the Sussexes have effectively thrown their three children under a bus.”

Meanwhile, a source reveals exactly what happened between Meghan and Kate before the royal wedding: drama over *checks notes* a pair of tights. “There was an incident at the wedding rehearsal,” a source says. “It was a hot day and apparently there was a row over whether the bridesmaids should wear tights or not. Kate, following protocol, felt that they should. Meghan didn’t want them to.”

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May 27, 2020

Kensington Palace releases a rare statement in response to Tatler’s claims about Kate, saying, “This story contains a swathe of inaccuracies and false misrepresentations which were not put to Kensington Palace prior to publication.”

Meanwhile, a Tatler spokesperson tells Entertainment Tonight,Tatler’s editor-in-chief Richard Dennen stands behind the reporting of Anna Pasternak and her sources. Kensington Palace knew we were running the ‘Catherine the Great’ cover months ago and we asked them to work together on it. The fact they are denying they ever knew is categorically false.”

July 27, 2020

Excerpts of Omid Scobie and Carolyn Durand's Finding Freedom book are out, and boy are they a doozy. Snippets claim that Kate allegedly did nothing to make Meghan feel like a part of the royal family, but they “were not at war with each other” like the headlines often suggested.

“Though it was not necessarily her responsibility, Kate did little to bridge the divide,” they write, adding that there was plenty of “awkward moments” to go around.

The book reports that Kate and Meghan also “struggled to move past distant politeness” and basically had nothing in common with each other “other than the fact that they lived at Kensington Palace.” And about those "awkward moments"—Meghan and Kate decided to leave Kensington Palace to go shopping on the same street, but Kate ended up leaving Meghan to shop alone.

That brings us up to date, but since this drama seemingly won’t die, this timeline will, inevitably, be updated.

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