A couple have sparked outrage for emailing to say a wedding gift wasn’t generous enough 9Photo: splitshire.com via Pexels0
It’s the dilemma that plagues many a wedding guest – how much money to splash out on a gift for the happy couple? But one pair of newlyweds has sparked a furious online debate after emailing a guest to say her gift wasn’t generous enough. Wait, what?
The unnamed guest took to a Mumset forum asking for advice in how to respond after she was told the £100 check (about $145 US dollars) she’d given in response to a request for cash had fallen short of the mark.
The guest, who was an ex-colleague of the bride, explained she was “gobsmacked” that the couple had been rude enough to complain about her £100 contribution.
The guest’s £100 contribution didn’t hit the mark 9Photo: pixabay.com via Pexels0
According to the poster, known only as Puzzledandp***sedoff, the email she received read:
“We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”
The woman believes that the reference to her ‘position’ was most likely about a recent inheritance.
The poster then went on to ask the forum for advice in how she should react. “For someone who’s not easily shocked I confess I’m utterly gobsmacked by this,” she wrote.
“Please, anyone, what do I do now? I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t quite believe they’ve done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what?”
A not so happy couple, it seems [Photo: unsplash.com via Pexels]
Unsurprisingly, the posting sparked a huge response from readers with more than a thousand replies in three days, many urging her to cancel the cheque.
“Rudest thing I’ve ever heard. Please cancel check and buy us all cakes,” one user wrote.
“Grabby and greedy is really an understatement here. On reflection, I think I might email “You MUST be kidding?!” back to her with no other comment and then never speak to them again,” another added.
“I would email back but BCC any mutual friends in so they are able to see the email for themselves or send a glitter bomb as the extra :P,” one viewer wrote. “That is entitled and grabby. It’s a gift not an obligation and many people wouldn’t have given so much to an ex colleague.”
Others thought the best way to deal with it would be to ask what would have been an ‘appropriate’ amount.
“What amount do you feel would adequately reflect the warmth of my good wishes? My pen is poised over my checkbook,” quipped one user. “Meanwhile I’d be contacting some of the others who were at the wedding to ask who else received an email (because if you got one having given £100 I suspect most people will have got one).”
The wedding guest was ‘gobsmacked’ about the email she received from the newlyweds (Photo: Ingrid via Pexels)
The original poster returned to the forum to say how shocked she was at the huge response she’d received from her post. “I’m dead when bride finds out, aren’t I?” she joked.
In response to those who suggested she should cancel the check, the guest explained that the cheque had in fact already been cashed, and that the newlyweds had returned from their honeymoon, paid for by the bride’s parents-in-law, a few weeks ago.
So did she reply or ignore? Encouraged by the response from the Mumsnet community she decided to reply with one killer sentence.
“I assume this was some sort of mistake?”‘
Funnily enough, she’s still waiting for a response.