Excuse Me, But Why Does Everyone Hate Scorpios?

Erika W. Smith
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Excuse Me, But Why Does Everyone Hate Scorpios?
Excuse Me, But Why Does Everyone Hate Scorpios?

From Cosmopolitan

Recently, a friend of mine broke up with a Scorpio...which means that I’ve been hearing a lot about why we suck. Yeah, I said “we”—I’m a Scorpio, and if that makes you lean back a little from your screen, well, you might just be one of the many Scorpio haters out there. If we’re not the most-detested sign of the zodiac (Gemini probably wins that one), then we might be the most misunderstood...and yes, I know that’s a very Scorpio thing to say.

But can you blame me? When I started asking people about Scorpio hate, even my closest friends had, um, strong opinions. The friend (a Sagittarius) who’d dated a Scorpio told me we’re too guarded, expect other people to read our minds, and hold outsized grudges over the tiniest issues. Another friend (a Gemini) told me that Scorps are self-centered, judgmental, and too quick to call others out for perceived slights. My roommate (a Cancer) said that Scorpios are a textbook example of avoidant attachment style—we keep others at arms’ length, to our own disadvantage.

If my IRL friends said all that, then strangers were even harsher. (Yes, I tweeted asking people to tell me why they hate Scorpios, so I have no one to blame but myself.) One person emailed me, “I LITERALLY HATE SCORPIOS,” then didn’t respond when I asked why. A Pisces told me we’re “broody, seductive, irrationally secretive, and somehow equal parts codependent and emotionally avoidant.” People who’d dated Scorpios had a lot to share: One said they tend to be f*ckbois, and another said her Scorpio ex “is the most deeply, *comically* evil person I’ve ever met.” Even some fellow Scorpios said they’d never again date another Scorp! “I will say they absolutely were horrible people, so I kind of understand some of the hate,” one said of her two Scorpio exes.

Of course, I had to ask the pros if the Scorpio haters have a point, or if they’re just jealous. To sway the argument in my favor, I reached out only to fellow Scorpios. Drew Allen, founder of Angelite Astrology, told me that it’s all about whether the Scorpio in question has put in the inner work to become the best version of themselves. “If you come across a Scorpio that is not living the life they’re meant to or feels misunderstood in their environment, the negative clichés will seep out,” she said. “A more evolved Scorpio is going to love you unconditionally, give you great advice, protect you and use their passionate energy to fight for worthy causes. Scorpios must learn to use their power for good.”

Lerato, a student of astrology who runs the platform Musings Abroad, added that although some Scorpio haters have likely had bad experiences with Scorpios, others may be avoiding confronting their own Scorpio-like traits. “What is it that Scorpio is representing to you that you refuse to see, so that instead of acknowledging it in yourself you want to hate a whole star sign?” she asks.

One thing I noticed: The only people who have more to say about Scorpios’ negative traits than their exes are…Scorpios themselves. “My brother is convinced I could commit murder simply because I'm a Scorpio,” one told me. Another said, “We spend so much energy hiding how we feel and keeping it private that it likely comes across as cold to other people. The truth is that we feel so deeply that we can't afford to share that with everyone.”

Mia Lardiere, Cosmo’s Snapchat editor and a fellow Scorpio (in fact, we have the same bday) sent me a link to an old Hairpin article titled, “Astrology Is Fake but Scorpios Are Extremely True.” It begins: “It should be illegal to be a Scorpio. It should be a war crime. It should be a thing that you can only look at a Scorpio from a distance of two hundred meters, and you are wearing protective headgear while you do it. If you are a Scorpio and you are reading this, stop. You are smiling in a way I don’t appreciate.”

Hmm, you might be thinking. This all sounds suspiciously like…bragging? Well, I have a theory: Scorpios thrive on Scorpio hate. It makes us stronger. “You think I’m a sex maniac that will cut you off with no notice? Sure, I can be that!” one Scorpio said. Another added, “If learning I'm a Scorpio makes people intimidated by me, hey, I'll take it (and, quite frankly, lean into it).”

Support for my theory: Many of the Scorpios I talked to felt a little uncomfy with their Sun sign when they were younger. I did, too—when I first picked up an astrology book in middle school, I decided I felt more like a Sagittarius, the sign after Scorpio, because Scorpio's dark, sexy vibes were too intimidating for pre-teen me (and it turns out my Moon, Mercury, and Venus are all in Sag, so I did have a point). But as I got older, I embraced my Sun sign and am now a proud Scorp.

Narayana Montúfar, Senior Astrologer for Astrology.com and Horoscope.com, had a similar experience. “I love being a Scorpio! It was not easy to learn to be myself, but once I realized that my emotional depth is a strength and not a weakness, things began to turn around for me,” she said. “And I’m not afraid of being intense either.” See, the qualities that many hate in Scorpios—guardedness, intensity, a fascination with darkness—can be positive if looked at in the right way. As Narayana puts it, “We’re not for everyone, but do we even want to be? I say no!”

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