'The Bachelorette' Season 16, Episode 3: Wow, That Was a Lot

Ashley Iaconetti
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Photo credit: Craig Sjodin
Photo credit: Craig Sjodin

From Cosmopolitan

Because she’s been there and done that, literally, former Bachelor contestant/tear fountain Ashley Iaconetti is recapping this season of The Bachelorette for Cosmopolitan. With insider insight as well as a clear eye for what’s going down both in front of and behind the cameras, she's got a whole lot to say...and you're gonna wanna hear it.

This post contains spoilers for last night's (10/27/20) episode of The Bachelorette.

Yosef is gross. Yeah, the strip dodgeball group date last week totally showed a double standard, but to act as “appalled” as he did, to call Clare classless and to say he expected more from the oldest Bachelorette, is disgusting. The way he leaned into the confrontation made it seem as if he knew he was there to fill the role of villain, and he did so with pride. It’s ironic that Yosef is trying to say the date activity was a bad example to set for his daughter and yet through his “conversation” trying to prove this, he’s acting terribly himself. If this interaction was how Yosef speaks to a woman he’s known for less than a week, I get goosebumps thinking about how he’d communicate with a woman he’s in a relationship with.

Yosef, who has played out the I-have-a-daughter card in three episodes, apparently isn’t any better of a role model off-screen. The girl he was talking to before the show (supposedly the one Tyler C. brought up the first night) got on TikTok this week to reveal that he was sending another other woman videos of him masturbating and his desire to f*$% her while he discussed having a family with her. But ya know…strip dodgeball is appalling and anyone having fun with it would be an awful mother. *Eye roll*

Clare stood up to Yosef like the champ she is: “Do not stop me. I’ve listened to you this entire time,” “You know what? You are done,” and “I’m the oldest Bachelorette that is 39 and is standing here because I didn’t settle for men like that.” All fantastic lines!!!

I could have done without the macho crew (AKA a sampling of the other nearby men at the cocktail party) puffing their chests at the sound of the fight. (“Yo. I’m so heated right now,” says a guy whose name I don’t remember.) But then, of course, the difference between Dale and the others wouldn’t be as pronounced when Dale walked up to Clare and comforted her with all the right body language and words. I mean, Dale really excelled in this moment.

Photo credit: Craig Sjodin
Photo credit: Craig Sjodin

This scene was the one in which I thought, screw it! If Clare quits The Bachelorette for this man after 11 or so days, it was the right decision. Dale’s approach felt very genuine to me. I’ve said before, I believe in love at first sight, but it needs to prove itself. Well, this seemed like it proving itself.

I found Clare so hilarious and relatable in this episode. Was she behaving as the Bachelorette is expected to behave? No, but isn’t that why it was so entertaining? She was every girl who has been on a date with a guy while waiting to get a text from the guy she likes more. Don’t deny that this has been you. You go on the date because you feel like you should date around if you’re not committed. Per precedent, Clare should be open-minded to the other guys, but let’s not fault her for her transparency. I think it’s so refreshing!

I can already hear people saying she seemed like she was in high school for the amount of times she said, “I can’t stop thinking about Dale.” Hey, there’s nothing immature about being clear about where your feelings lie. And as for that part where she referred to Dale as her fiancé…that voiceover seems like it was taken out of context, in my opinion. We don't know when she really said it.

Photo credit: Craig Sjodin
Photo credit: Craig Sjodin

I do have empathy for the other guys. It hurts badly to be there and to see the person you are crushing on be so enamored with someone else. I’m watching from the perspective of wanting Clare to be happy, because I know her, and I know Dale makes her feel the way she’s always dreamed. I also believe you don’t have to personally know the lead to be rooting for their happiness first and foremost. (RIGHT?!)

Normally when the guys gang up against another guy in the house, like they did in this episode with Dale, there’s a reason beyond jealousy. But in this case, I’m not sensing any other reasons. Are you?! The guys are mostly complaining about the amount of time Dale's gotten with Clare, not his character. Maybe I’m drinking the Dale Cool-Aid too fast. I was skeptical about Dale at first, mostly because his goal is to be an entertainment and sports host and he’s a stunning model whose IG sometimes screams, “I want more followers!” but my doubt about the man is fading fast. Why is it that a red flag waves when he see a man who is gorgeous, goal-oriented, speaks well, and seems well raised? Maybe we all need to be less jaded? I want to jump into shipping Clare and Dale just as fast as Clare wants to jump into marriage with Dale. The hopeless romantic in me is awake.

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