Careful: Spoilers for The Bachelorette ahead.
Ah, Greece. The country has given us so many cultural landmarks. It's the birthplace of democracy. The site of architectural wonder the Parthenon. Home of philosophers Plato, Aristotle, and Socrates. The setting of cinema classic Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again. And the place where Hannah will have sex in a windmill. Twice. Did you hear that Luke? Our Bachelorette is a grown-ass woman who likes sex, and Jesus still loves her. Get it, Hannah!
But in all seriousness, this episode of The Bachelorette talked about sex in such a frank, honest way—something we haven't always seen on this show before. Hannah is clear with all the men about her desires as well as her boundaries. And when one of those guys, Luke, doesn't respect that, he is swiftly sent packing. Simply put, this episode pleasantly surprised me. So let's get into it.
"It's fantasy suite weeeeeeeeekkkk," Hannah sings. Clearly someone is thinking about Tyler, eh? "It's been a long time since I've been physical with a man," she tells us. "But fantasy suite week is not about sex." (It isn't?) "It's to have the time in a real, raw way without cameras to see where my feelings are truly." (Ah, yes.)
Who will she pick? The sweet, awkward young banker? The rakish adventurer with a sailboat? Or the dashing Pierce Brosnan lookalike? Oh, wait...yup, that is the plot of Mamma Mia! Here We Go Again. Hannah's four suitors are actually Peter, Tyler, Luke, and Jed.
Speaking of, Peter has the first date which seems to solely consist of making out on a sailboat. "I've never been this exposed with someone," Peter says. He's talking about being vulnerable with his feelings, but also maybe his body? I mean, they are making out a lot. Hannah's happy that their physical chemistry is good, but she's worried he hasn't said "I love you" yet.
She doesn't have to sweat about that for long: Over dinner, Peter drops the L-bomb. This inspires her to take him to the fantasy suite suite, which is—OH MY GOD—inside a windmill. A bit of background: After a teaser dropped in which Hannah tells Luke she had sex with one of the men inside a windmill, Bachelor Nation has been hard at work determining who that could be. Theories were shared. Debates were had. And now we know: It's Peter.
The next morning, Hannah says she "feels amazing." She calls Peter her Zeus, and she's his Aphrodite. (Maybe now isn't a good time to point out that in Homer's Iliad, Zeus is Aphrodite's father?)
Let's check in with Peter: "We came together, like, so much last night," he says, without a trace of irony.
Peter tells Hannah, not for the first time, that he's shocked this feels "so real." Sounds fishy when you factor in what his ex has been saying about him. Anyway, Peter tells us he's not bothered about Hannah's dates with the other guys. Especially after their night together.
For her date with Tyler, Hannah wears a top that looks like something Meryl might have worn under her overalls in Mamma Mia. Trust, that is a compliment of the highest order. Donna's style is iconic. Anyway, they get a couples massage that Tyler cuts short so he can climb on top of Hannah and make out. Hannah says she's 100% sure physical intimacy is not an issue with Tyler. No shit. She also describes him as the dream guy every woman would want to be with, and I hear no lies.
That night, Tyler shows up in his Special Occasion blazer (good to see you, old friend).
Right away, Hannah says their physical connection is clearly a huge part of their relationship, but she needs to know if their emotional connection is just as strong. Because of that, she doesn't want to have sex in the fantasy suite. She wants to spend that time talking and getting to know each other on a deeper level instead.
"You know, tonight, the fantasy suites and all that...it has the connotation of sex. For me, it's way more than that," he replies. "I just want to be with you and have that time with you. You have to really love and respect and honor each other's boundaries. I would never press you or pressure you at all. I want you to be 100% comfortable and confident in whatever we do together."
Good answer, Tyler, and Bachelor Nation agrees. While it's strange that we're praising a man for doing exactly what all people should be doing—respecting a partner's boundaries—I do think it's important to see conversations like these played out on a platform as big as The Bachelorette. Hannah's happy as well. "It didn't phase him," she says of their conversation. "It shows how much he loves me."
In the morning, Hannah thanks Tyler again for being respectful of the boundaries she put in place. He says he just wants their relationship to be easy and natural—there are so many ways to bond that aren't physical, and that's what they needed to focus on.
To the cameras, Hannah reveals that any time they would start making out Tyler would stop before it progressed. "He was the most respectful man that's ever been with me. Ever," she says.
Sadly, that's where the positive moments of the episode end because the final two dates are with Jed and Luke. Jed goes first, but he and Hannah spend most of their time talking about Luke. If you're this close to finding your future husband, he asks, why keep someone you're uncertain about around? She stumbles over her answer before finally telling Jed that she and Luke have a connection; she knows it's hard to understand, but he'll have to respect it. "You've got to let me figure it out," she says.
Over dinner, she thanks him for bringing up the Luke stuff. Jed admits it's hard for him to understand how she can be falling in love with him but still holding onto someone who's been toxic to her and everyone else. It makes him wonder if there are other bad situations she won't let go of out in the real world. "I'm just really freaking sure about you, and I don't want to be unsure," he says. She gets so frustrated at that she leaves the table.
When they both sit back at the table, Jed insists that he trusts her decisions and has her back no matter what. Hannah says his conversation scared her, but ultimately it shows her that he cares. They go to the fantasy suite.
The next day, Hannah and Luke take a helicopter to Santorini. It's fairly uneventful, though I did a spit take when Luke, a man who told Hannah that he was falling in love with her on their second date, says he doesn't take "dropping the L word" lightly.
Their dinner that night starts off well enough, until Luke opens his mouth. "I want to make sure that from now on things are known how they're supposed to be," he says. "So let's talk about sex." Sex is a beautiful thing only when it's in the "guidelines of a marriage," he says. He concedes that he's been abstaining from sex for almost four years—and he knows she's not a virgin either—but he wants to know that she won't be having sex with the other guys in the fantasy suites. He adds he'd "100%" go home if she did.
While I screamed at my television and threw my phone across the couch in horror, Hannah keeps her cool. "Sex is a very big deal to me," she replies. That said, she doesn't agree with him. "The way that you just said that...it's like, why do you have the right to do that because you're not my husband," she explains. She feels he's judging her when he doesn't have the right too. "Pride is a sin too, and I feel like this is a pride thing."
Of course, Luke tries to backtrack. If you've had sex, he says, "I'm willing to work through anything." That sets Hannah off: She can make her own choices, so he doesn't have to "work through" anything with her.
"I don't want my words to be misconstrued," he says
"That's what you literally just said," she fires back.
Luke then goes straight for the slut-shaming: I can understand one "slip up," he tells her, but if she's had sex with all of the guys then that's a problem.
"The words you're saying are really not OK," she says. Hannah then explains that she's fought so hard to make this relationship work despite all the red flags. To now have him judge her and accuse her of not behaving like "a woman of faith" is heartbreaking. "You're holding other people to a standard that you don't even live by," she says.
"I guess I did say something I don't mean," he says, lamely. But Hannah's finally gotten clarity on their relationship, and she knows she does not want him to be her husband. She offers to walk him out, but he stays seated. "It's over. Come on," she says. "I feel like you owe me—" he starts. She cuts him off: "I don't owe you anything."
She demands that Luke leave, and he finally gets up and walks to the waiting car. On the way, he claims he wasn't judging or condemning her—he just wanted to share his "ideal scenario." Hannah doesn't care—she just wants him to go—but he refuses to leave. And so Hannah offers some information that might motivate him: She has had sex in the fantasy suite. "And Jesus still loves me."
"Can I pray with you before I leave?" Luke asks. "No," Hannah says. He finally leaves, and Hannah flips a middle finger up as the car drives away. "I feel a weight lifted off my shoulders that I finally figured it out for myself." (Here's their full conversation.)
Originally Appeared on Glamour