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If you’re single and looking, it’s pretty important that you stay on top of what’s happening in the dating world. You want to be informed about what’s socially acceptable and what red flags other singles are picking up on. And if there are words you should be adding to your dating vocabulary, you should probably know those too. After all, a girl’s gotta speak the language! To help you get a jump on the semantics of dating in the new year, dating platform Plenty of Fish surveyed 1,000 single users in December 2018 to get their take on the eight trends they’ve experienced recently in dating and relationships. The catchphrases used to describe these trends very well may become the “ghosting” and “catfishing” of 2019, so keep scrolling for all the details.
1. Grande-ing (/grahn-day-ing/): Named for none other than iconic Ariana Grande herself, Grande-ing is the act of throwing a darn party post-breakup to celebrate yourself. Do this by taking the end of a relationship as an opportunity to be grateful for what your ex taught you instead of getting buried in negativity. Thank U, Next.
2. Instagrandstanding (/insta-grand-stand-ing/): Take Grande-ing to the next level by posting about your post-breakup gratitude on social media. According to Plenty of Fish, 55 percent of singles admit to sharing on their feed for one person’s — AKA their ex’s — benefit. Think a glowy selfie or photo of you out with your friends just a few days after your breakup, paired with a caption about self-love or positivity.
3. Banksying (/banks-ee-ing/): Among other things, graffiti artist Banksy is infamous for hiding a device in the frame of one of his pieces, causing it to shred the artwork in the middle of a 2018 auction. In the world of relationships, Banksying is the breakup equivalent of this act — the process of carefully orchestrating the end of a partnership weeks or months in advance.
4. Throning (/throw-ning/): If you date someone to boost your personal profile or reputation, you’re throning. Per Plenty of Fish’s research, nine percent of singles admit to doing this themselves, while 27 percent believe that others have dated them for the sake of social climbing.
5. Cohabidating (/ko-ha-ba-date-ing/): You and your S.O. aren’t quite sure that you’re ready to move in together, but you’re both feeling financial pressure, and the idea of paying rent at two places suddenly seems pretty silly when you can pay it at just one instead. As a result, you push aside your concerns about cohabiting and just go for it… mostly to cut back on your bills. This, friends, is cohabidating, and 49 percent of singles know someone who has done it, according to Plenty of Fish.
6. You-Turning (/yu-tern-ing): We’ve all been here — totally head over heels for a new bae until suddenly, we’re, well, not. One dealbreaker was all it took to turn the tide. You-Turning is the phrase to describe this in 2019.
7. Vulturing (/vul-ture-ing/): You sense that a potential love interest who has been romantically involved with someone else may be on the verge of a breakup, and you find yourself having increased feelings for them. You may even be reaching out more often to make plans with them (as friends, of course) during this pre-split period. Equating this behavior to that of a vulture may feel icky, but it’s also pretty accurate.
8. Scrooging (/skroo-jing/): Scrooging is the act of calling it quits with a significant other just before a major holiday. According to Plenty of Fish, women are slightly more likely to pull this than their male counterparts, but 33 percent of survey respondents report having experienced it, so beware!
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