How to Have Amazing Hand Sex with Any Body Here's everything you need to know about giving your partner a hand (orgasm). First, make sure they want it: Make sure your boo wants to be pleasured by your hand before reaching between their legs. Experiment with different strokes: Using varied strokes is a great way to start off your manual activities. Work from the outside in: Spend some time teasing their outer and inner thighs, belly, pubic mound, and labia. Add lube: Lube helps your fingers glide over your lover's bits as opposed to sticking to and snagging them. Think about your own pleasure: Use one hand to stroke yourself and another to stroke your partner. Bring in the back door: There are tons of sensitive nerve endings in the anus and around the anal sphincter.