9 Ways You Can Make Doggy Style Sex Way More Fun
There's something about doggy style sex that can feel a little...less than glamourous.
But the all-fours position is popular for a reason: "You can get the deepest penetration possible in this position, and you can also reach the G-spot," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Neurolovology.
Plus, Nan Wise, Ph.D., a licensed psychotherapist and certified sex therapist, and author of the forthcoming Why Good Sex Matters, says that without the pressure of staring deep into your partner's eyes, it might actually be easier to orgasm. “I notice that a number of women find that they’re more orgasmic when they don’t have to worry about their face being seen,” she says.
Luckily, there are plenty of ways to make doggy style feel sexy as hell-even if you're kind of "meh" about the position at first. But before that, let's start with the basics.
Okay, how do I pull off doggy style in the first place?
The classic version involves getting on all fours with your partner behind you and on his knees, entering you from behind, says Nan Wise, Ph.D., a licensed psychotherapist and certified sex therapist, and author of the forthcoming Why Good Sex Matters.
Other variations include bending over the bed while your partner enters you from behind (more on that below), as well as several changes to your leg and arm positions to change things up. But the gist of it is getting busy with your partner behind you. Now that you've got that down, try these tricks to make doggy style sex more pleasurable and less painful (or awkward).
1. Get vertical
The classic doggy style set-up-kneeling on all fours-can feel great for a while, but eventually, your knees start to feel it. "A lot of women complain that they get sore knees, or that it hurts their back or their neck," Cadell says. Fix that by getting on your feet. Stand up and lean forward slightly against a wall, or bend over onto a table or a desk. Like so:
2. Leave the bedroom
The best part about doggy style is that it doesn't require a bed. Try it in the shower, standing on a staircase while holding onto the banister, or leaning over the kitchen counter. "My favorite is bending over a dryer that's on the spin cycle, so it's like a giant vibrator," says Cadell.
3. Fluff up a pillow
Skip the traditional doggy style and try this variation to increase your chances of orgasming from intercourse alone (which is rare for most women, Wise says). Get into your classic doggy style position with you on all fours, then put a wedge pillow (or a few firm pillows) under your belly in order to increase external pressure on the abdomen and pelvis, therefore upping the ante on the sensations you get during sex. Lastly, keeping your hips raised, rest your head and arms on the bed. “Almost like a child’s pose,” Wise adds. (It's kind of like Leap Frog position, but with the added OMG of pillow pressure.)
4. Bring in the nipples
If you like breast stimulation, doggy style is the perfect position to incorporate them, says Cadell. Grab your partner's hands and place them on your breasts. Then, by keeping your hands over his, you can show him exactly the way you want to be touched-think of it as a naughty show and tell.
5. Try snagging an up-close view
Position yourself in front of a mirror so you and your partner can sneak a peek at each other from another angle, says Sadie Allison, Ph.D., author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris. And don't be surprised if it inspires you to put on a show. Toss your hair, arch your back a little more, and catch his eyes for a sultry look.
6. Try an unconventional prop
Don't worry, “nothing fancy” is required, says Wise. But do go ahead and grab a yoga strap before heading to the bedroom. (I know ... huh?) “They are probably the easiest, most accessible and most ubiquitous bedroom prop,” Wise says. All you have to do is wrap it around your waist for that feels-so-good pelvic pressure you get with pillows and then let your partner pull on it while he enters you from behind. The bonus is that he'll also get a bit more leverage for thrusting.
7. Give yourself a hand
Using your fingers or a vibrator, stimulate your clitoris as your partner thrusts for a climax that's twice as powerful. In fact, this is one of the top ways to increase your orgasm chances during doggy style, says Allison.
8. Go out of bounds
If you're into it, this is the easiest position to switch from vaginal sex to backdoor play, says Cadell. Just make sure to switch the condom to avoid infection, and if it's your first time, be sure to use plenty of lube and go slow.
9. Take a few deep breaths
If you feel nervous about giving doggy style a go, Wise recommends what any yoga teacher would before attempting a complicated pose-deep breathing. “Take a smooth, deep breath in through your nose and give yourself permission to be exactly who you are,” she says. When you breathe out, let go of the tension, Wise says, and keep in mind that clenching all the things doesn’t make sexual arousal easy.
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