7 Approachable Vibrators For Sex Toy Beginners

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So, you're thinking about buying your first vibrator. Does this scenario sound familiar? You load up the first sex toy site that comes into your internet search and start browsing. Your eyes start to widen as you take in the intimidating-looking gadgets that look more like complicated torture devices than anything you want to put near your vagina. What's the difference between a clitoral stimulator and clitoral sucker? Do you want your G-spot activated? Do you want anything activated?

Stop panic scrolling, take a deep breath, and listen up. Buying your first sex toy should be fun and exciting! Taking the first steps to learn your own body via sexual pleasure is a milestone, and it should be celebrated, not tinged with dread. But the world of sex toys can be intimidating to say the least. With so many categories of toys, it's hard to figure out what is actually best for someone who's stepping their toe in the self-pleasure pool for the first time.

If you're new to masturbation, it's possible you haven't inserted anything into your vagina yet (or for a while), so external-use toys are the safest bet. Plus, clitoral stimulation is the easiest way to achieve an orgasm for most vagina-possessing people. That's why I've compiled the best user-friendly, totally approachable (not scary-looking!) vibrators for beginners, focused on wands, bullets, suction vibrators and other clit-centric vibes. Because it's time to stop being overwhelmed and get right to the pleasure part of self-pleasure. Keep reading to learn about the seven best sex toys for beginners, so you can make your first sex toy purchase with confidence.

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<h2>Dame Pom</h2><br>This flexible vibrator is about the shape and size of a computer mouse, and it is the most beginner-friendly vibrator I've tried. Easily maneuverable, this quiet but still-powerful vibe is covered in an extra-soft layer of silicone, which feels good against your most sensitive bits even without lube. Its five intensities work with you, applying more stimulation the more you press against it and giving you a customizable pleasure.<br><br><strong>Reviewers Say:</strong> "This little gem has the power to get the job done while still being soft, flexible, and comfortable. I wanted something designed for external stimulation and this excels at the job. Planning to buy one for a friend as well." —<em>Rebecca W., Dame Reviewer</em><br><br><em>Shop </em><strong><a href="https://www.dameproducts.com/products/pom" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Dame" class="link "><em>Dame</em></a></strong><br><br><strong>Dame</strong> Pom, $, available at <a href="https://go.skimresources.com/?id=30283X879131&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dameproducts.com%2Fproducts%2Fpom" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Dame Products" class="link ">Dame Products</a>

Dame Pom


This flexible vibrator is about the shape and size of a computer mouse, and it is the most beginner-friendly vibrator I've tried. Easily maneuverable, this quiet but still-powerful vibe is covered in an extra-soft layer of silicone, which feels good against your most sensitive bits even without lube. Its five intensities work with you, applying more stimulation the more you press against it and giving you a customizable pleasure.

Reviewers Say: "This little gem has the power to get the job done while still being soft, flexible, and comfortable. I wanted something designed for external stimulation and this excels at the job. Planning to buy one for a friend as well." —Rebecca W., Dame Reviewer

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Dame Pom, $, available at Dame Products
<h2>Lelo Sona 2 Cruise</h2><br>The Sona 2 Cruise is actually one of the smartest sex toys on the market, making it a perfect beginner vibrator. Lelo's cutting-edge vibrator technology includes a cruise control feature that learns which intensities and pressures your body likes the more you play. Plus, its sonic wave vibrations combined with the Sona's wider, softer mouth allows for not just easy orgasms, but according to pleased reviewers, easy <em>multiple</em> orgasms. There's a reason it's a best-selling vibrator with R29 readers. Your clit will thank you.<br><br><strong>Reviewers Say:</strong> "The Sona 2 was my first vibrator ever, and although I’m sorry that I never experimented with them before, I couldn’t have asked for a better intro! Love that it’s small, discreet, but very powerful. It is rare that I orgasm normally, but this little gadget gets me every time." —<em>FitChick2011, Lelo Reviewer</em><br><br>Shop <strong><a href="https://www.lelo.com/sona-2-cruise" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Lelo" class="link ">Lelo</a></strong>.<br><br><strong>LELO</strong> SONA™ 2 Cruise, $, available at <a href="https://go.skimresources.com/?id=30283X879131&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.lelo.com%2Fsona-2-cruise" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:LELO" class="link ">LELO</a>

Lelo Sona 2 Cruise


The Sona 2 Cruise is actually one of the smartest sex toys on the market, making it a perfect beginner vibrator. Lelo's cutting-edge vibrator technology includes a cruise control feature that learns which intensities and pressures your body likes the more you play. Plus, its sonic wave vibrations combined with the Sona's wider, softer mouth allows for not just easy orgasms, but according to pleased reviewers, easy multiple orgasms. There's a reason it's a best-selling vibrator with R29 readers. Your clit will thank you.

Reviewers Say: "The Sona 2 was my first vibrator ever, and although I’m sorry that I never experimented with them before, I couldn’t have asked for a better intro! Love that it’s small, discreet, but very powerful. It is rare that I orgasm normally, but this little gadget gets me every time." —FitChick2011, Lelo Reviewer

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LELO SONA™ 2 Cruise, $, available at LELO
<h2>Better Love Tap Dancer</h2><br>After a long hiatus in my own masturbation life, I was given the opportunity to review the Tap Dancer from Better Love, and it blew my freaking mind. Perfect for a long marathon session, this vibrator is an ideal choice for someone who's discovering (or re-discovering, as it were) what feels good to them. Using Tappleasure technology, the Tap Dancer mimics the feel of fingers, so it's just like a slightly elevated step up from playing with your hand. My only caveat is that the motor is a bit louder than the other vibrators, so if you're looking for a discreet play session, it might not be the best choice.<br><br><strong>Reviewers Say:</strong> "This tiny little baby has some power and the SIX different settings of combos will not disappoint. I literally could not stop and spent a solid hour enjoying multiple orgasms (couldn’t get just one)!!! I am so glad I bought this. The beauty is that each orgasm was different and to different depths." <em>—D. Rix, Ella Paradis Reviewer</em><br><br>Shop <strong><a href="https://www.ellaparadis.com/better-love-tap-dancer.html" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Ella Paradis" class="link ">Ella Paradis</a></strong>.<br><br><strong>Better Love</strong> Better Love Tap Dancer™, $, available at <a href="https://go.skimresources.com/?id=30283X879131&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.ellaparadis.com%2Fbetter-love-tap-dancer.html" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Ella Paradis" class="link ">Ella Paradis</a>

Better Love Tap Dancer


After a long hiatus in my own masturbation life, I was given the opportunity to review the Tap Dancer from Better Love, and it blew my freaking mind. Perfect for a long marathon session, this vibrator is an ideal choice for someone who's discovering (or re-discovering, as it were) what feels good to them. Using Tappleasure technology, the Tap Dancer mimics the feel of fingers, so it's just like a slightly elevated step up from playing with your hand. My only caveat is that the motor is a bit louder than the other vibrators, so if you're looking for a discreet play session, it might not be the best choice.

Reviewers Say: "This tiny little baby has some power and the SIX different settings of combos will not disappoint. I literally could not stop and spent a solid hour enjoying multiple orgasms (couldn’t get just one)!!! I am so glad I bought this. The beauty is that each orgasm was different and to different depths." —D. Rix, Ella Paradis Reviewer

Shop Ella Paradis.

Better Love Better Love Tap Dancer™, $, available at Ella Paradis
<h2>Maude Vibe</h2><br>It's easy to become overwhelmed by a sex toy with too many settings and intensities, which is why this simple vibrator from Maude is perfect for the beginner who wants to learn the basics. With only three speeds, this whisper-quiet vibrator can still do it all: It's discreet enough to travel with and <a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/maude-chic-vibrators" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:chic" class="link ">chic</a> enough to leave out on your nightstand. Plus, its flexible flutter tip allows for pointed stimulation anywhere you want it. (It's even narrow enough that you can try inserting it if that's something you feel up to.)<br><br><strong>Reviewers Say: "</strong>This was my first vibrator and I am OBSESSED. I’ve sent the link to all my friends and recommend it to everyone. The first speed is great, and the second and third speeds are great for finishing off." —<em>Kath N., Maude Reviewer</em><br><br><strong><em>Shop </em></strong><a href="https://getmaude.com/products/vibe-personal-massager" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Maude" class="link "><strong><em>Maude</em></strong></a><br><br><strong>Maude</strong> Vibe, $, available at <a href="https://go.skimresources.com/?id=30283X879131&url=https%3A%2F%2Fgetmaude.com%2Fproducts%2Fvibe-personal-massager" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Maude" class="link ">Maude</a>

Maude Vibe


It's easy to become overwhelmed by a sex toy with too many settings and intensities, which is why this simple vibrator from Maude is perfect for the beginner who wants to learn the basics. With only three speeds, this whisper-quiet vibrator can still do it all: It's discreet enough to travel with and chic enough to leave out on your nightstand. Plus, its flexible flutter tip allows for pointed stimulation anywhere you want it. (It's even narrow enough that you can try inserting it if that's something you feel up to.)

Reviewers Say: "This was my first vibrator and I am OBSESSED. I’ve sent the link to all my friends and recommend it to everyone. The first speed is great, and the second and third speeds are great for finishing off." —Kath N., Maude Reviewer

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Maude Vibe, $, available at Maude
<h2>Dame Aer</h2><br>If you're a fan of oral stimulation but find yourself in need of a partner, word on the street is the Dame Aer feels like getting "<a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2021/01/10258945/dame-aer-suction-vibrator-review" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:oral from a cloud" class="link ">oral from a cloud</a>." This suction vibrator impressed one of our writers so much she couldn't resist doing a full-length review on how it made her reevaluate how she treats her clit, which is more of an endorsement than anything else we could possibly say. This simple but effective single function clit sucker is made from the same ultra-soft silicone as the Pom, but it requires no touching. Just put it against your vulva, press go, and enjoy the ride. Your clit deserves a treat, too, you know.<br><br><strong>Reviewers Say:</strong> "My first time purchasing a clitoris stimulation toy and oh my gosh, my orgasms have improved so much and so fast. The toy feels and looks really cute." —<em>Chaulung N., Dame Reviewer</em><br><br><em>Shop </em><strong><a href="https://www.dameproducts.com/collections/bestsellers/products/aer" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Dame" class="link "><em>Dame</em></a></strong><br><br><strong>Dame Products</strong> Aer, $, available at <a href="https://go.skimresources.com/?id=30283X879131&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.dameproducts.com%2Fcollections%2Fbestsellers%2Fproducts%2Faer" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Dame Products" class="link ">Dame Products</a>

Dame Aer


If you're a fan of oral stimulation but find yourself in need of a partner, word on the street is the Dame Aer feels like getting "oral from a cloud." This suction vibrator impressed one of our writers so much she couldn't resist doing a full-length review on how it made her reevaluate how she treats her clit, which is more of an endorsement than anything else we could possibly say. This simple but effective single function clit sucker is made from the same ultra-soft silicone as the Pom, but it requires no touching. Just put it against your vulva, press go, and enjoy the ride. Your clit deserves a treat, too, you know.

Reviewers Say: "My first time purchasing a clitoris stimulation toy and oh my gosh, my orgasms have improved so much and so fast. The toy feels and looks really cute." —Chaulung N., Dame Reviewer

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Dame Products Aer, $, available at Dame Products
<h2>Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator</h2><br>I know I said that we were going to steer clear internal toys, but this bullet vibrator from Je Joue is a notable exception. Because it's small, it's easily used both internally and externally, and with so few settings, you won't get overwhelmed by different sensations. Additionally, the low-frequency vibrations offer a rumbling sensation that works well against all the contours of your body, no matter which part you want to explore. <br><br><strong>Reviewers Say:</strong> "Overall just great quality for a first time buyer and I would recommend this to anyone that's a little unsure of the complicated or intimidating toys out there." —<em>Emma, Je Joue</em> <em>Reviewer</em><br><br><em>Shop </em><strong><a href="https://www.jejoue.com/collections/vagina-toys/products/g-spot-bullet-vibrator" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Je Joue" class="link "><em>Je Joue</em></a></strong><br><br><strong>Je Joue</strong> G-Spot Bullet Vibrator, $, available at <a href="https://go.skimresources.com/?id=30283X879131&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.jejoue.com%2Fcollections%2Fvagina-toys%2Fproducts%2Fg-spot-bullet-vibrator" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Je Joue" class="link ">Je Joue</a>

Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator


I know I said that we were going to steer clear internal toys, but this bullet vibrator from Je Joue is a notable exception. Because it's small, it's easily used both internally and externally, and with so few settings, you won't get overwhelmed by different sensations. Additionally, the low-frequency vibrations offer a rumbling sensation that works well against all the contours of your body, no matter which part you want to explore.

Reviewers Say: "Overall just great quality for a first time buyer and I would recommend this to anyone that's a little unsure of the complicated or intimidating toys out there." —Emma, Je Joue Reviewer

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Je Joue G-Spot Bullet Vibrator, $, available at Je Joue
<h2>Satisfyer Pro 2</h2><br>With <a href="https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2021/03/10371451/satisfyer-pro-2-vibrator-reviews" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:over 57,000 Amazon reviews" class="link ">over 57,000 Amazon reviews</a> to its name, the Satisfyer Pro 2 continues to impress sex toy users of all levels. But I think it's especially great for sex toy beginners with sensitive clits. If your foray into masturbation have been halted because of overstimulation, this vibrator is here to save you. The Satisfyer works via 11 touch-free intensities, using gentle waves of air that surround and stimulate your clitoris for a slow-building orgasm that will push your pleasure to new heights. Plus, for under $40, it'll barely make a dent in your bank account.<br><br><strong>Reviewers Say:</strong> "Imagine your spot getting hit and you tell them 'right there' and they ACTUALLY stay right there! Continuous and consistent pleasure is the best descriptive term for that. Unfortunately, I can’t vouch for the remaining settings (there are 11) because I never made it that far. I think I may have passed out. Or maybe I left my body for a moment and came back. Or got abducted by aliens. There is a black space in my memory shortly thereafter so I’m still not sure." <em>—Sho Dan, Amazon Reviewer</em><br><br>Shop <strong><a href="https://amzn.to/3B0PlxG" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Amazon" class="link ">Amazon</a></strong>.<br><br><strong>Satisfyer</strong> Satisfyer Pro 2, $, available at <a href="https://amzn.to/3dckXqV" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank" data-ylk="slk:Amazon" class="link ">Amazon</a>

Satisfyer Pro 2


With over 57,000 Amazon reviews to its name, the Satisfyer Pro 2 continues to impress sex toy users of all levels. But I think it's especially great for sex toy beginners with sensitive clits. If your foray into masturbation have been halted because of overstimulation, this vibrator is here to save you. The Satisfyer works via 11 touch-free intensities, using gentle waves of air that surround and stimulate your clitoris for a slow-building orgasm that will push your pleasure to new heights. Plus, for under $40, it'll barely make a dent in your bank account.

Reviewers Say: "Imagine your spot getting hit and you tell them 'right there' and they ACTUALLY stay right there! Continuous and consistent pleasure is the best descriptive term for that. Unfortunately, I can’t vouch for the remaining settings (there are 11) because I never made it that far. I think I may have passed out. Or maybe I left my body for a moment and came back. Or got abducted by aliens. There is a black space in my memory shortly thereafter so I’m still not sure." —Sho Dan, Amazon Reviewer

Shop Amazon.

Satisfyer Satisfyer Pro 2, $, available at Amazon

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