Eating food and having sex are undoubtedly two of the best things about being alive. As dining is already an integral part of dating, integrating food into your sex life is an easy peasy way to try new things in bed.
Kinks involving food, such as sploshing (deriving sexual pleasure from
sitting on food) and other forms of W.A.M. (wet and messy) play, may seem pretty far out. But the connection between sex and food makes perfect sense. They're both comforting activities often shared with those you love. Not to mention, sex is supposed to be messy.
For those of you who are intimidated, fear not: There are plenty of ways to incorporate food into your sex life that keep you within your comfort zone. Not convinced? We've rounded up some great foods to bring into the bedroom, along with beginner tips. (And don't forget to check back, as we'll be adding new foods for you to try.)
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Let's be blunt: Popsicles look like penises. But since they're
made out of mostly frozen water and sugar, they're not good to use for penetration. Not only can the sugar in a popsicle throw off your pH balance and potentially cause yeast infections, but the popsicle itself might melt inside an orifice. That's not so fun for a vagina, but it's super fun (and delicious) for a mouth.
Show off your blowjob skills by sucking and licking a popsicle as your partner watches, or sit across from them and swap the icy treat back and forth between your mouths during a make out session. The frozen dessert is also an exciting way to
introduce temperature play into your sex life; try having your partner run a popsicle over your nipples (and then they can lick off the sweet residue). More
Brie & Crackers
If your taste buds prefer savory over sweet, brie can be used in the same manner as gooey chocolate syrup. Get messy by spreading the soft cheese over your lover's nipples and licking it off while enjoying an entirely new flavor profile than the sugary treats traditionally used for food play.
Not turned on by eating fancy French cheese off your partner's body? Brie and crackers can also be served as the ultimate post-sex snack. A cheese plate in bed is pretty much the classiest and most delicious palate cleanser you can have after an oral sex marathon.
As part of breakfast in bed, after Sunday
morning sex, have your partner add grapes to your plate of well-deserved delicacies, and feed them to you Cleopatra-style. You'll feel worship worthy for sure. Before you get to the post-sex snacks, grapes can be used for temperature play while getting it on. Frozen grapes are delicious even without the love making, so imagine how delightful the fruit can be when orgasms are involved. Place a bundle of grapes in the freezer over night. When you're ready for some icy hot foreplay, have your love pluck a frozen grape from its stem and run it over your nipple and other erogenous zones. More
Yup, if done safely, you can turn this salad ingredient into a dildo. It's mega-taboo to put foods up your vagina, which is half the fun. Perhaps coming in second after the infamous
electric toothbrush, many young people with vaginas may have masturbated for the first time with phallic foods, simply because they're available in their parents' fridge.
When using a cucumber as a method of penetration, make sure to practice safer sex techniques. Think about it: If you wash a cucumber before you use it to make a salad that you're going to eat, you should wash it with anti-bacterial soap and warm water before inserting it into your other orifices. And however many times you wash it,
please still put a condom on the veggie before inserting it. There's no risk of STI transmission, unless you're using the cucumber on multiple partners, but those rough edges will go in much easier if wrapped in latex and covered in lube. More
If the infamous
Varsity Blues whipped cream bikini scene didn't convince you, whipped cream is a classic for a reason. It's delicious and it has the perfect fluffy-yet-sticky consistency that helps it stay put on erogenous zones. You don't need to go full-bikini, of course, but integrate the tasty treat into your foreplay by having your partner spray it on your nipples and lick it off (or vice versa).
You can also use it as the perfect segue way to oral sex by creating a line from your partner's neck down to just barely above their genitals. Lick your way down, then proceed to give a blow job or eat them out. While penis shafts are fun to decorate with whipped cream, if you or your partner has a vagina, be careful about getting the dessert inside the labia, as sugar can cause
yeast infections. Illustrated by Louisa Cannell. More
Grapefruit became infamous as a sex toy via "Auntie Angel," creator of the "
grapefruit blow job technique, " which involves slicing off the sides of the fruit, then cutting a hole the width of your partner's penis in the center portion. The grapefruit is then placed on the base of the penis shaft and used in tandem with your mouth like you would with your hands when giving a non-grapefruit blowjob. Angel advises springing this on them as a surprise, but we'd suggest discussing thoughts on food play with your partner before waking them up with a citrus fruit wrapped around their genitals.
You don't need to give a grapefruit blowjob to add the pretty pink fruit to your sex life. Grapefruit can act as an erotic and uplifting scent when incorporating aromatherapy and massage into your relationship. Place a bowl of grapefruit in your bedroom for both the aroma and to have a sex snack handy. Remember those controversial
Thinx subway ads featuring grapefruit? The pink citrus is indeed vulva-esque, making it the perfect pre- or post-sex food to feed to your partner. Illustrated by Louisa Cannell. More
Using chocolate syrup during sex is next-level whipped cream because it's a little messier and much drippier, requiring more tongue action to lick it off your partner after you've drizzled it over their erogenous zones. (But we also recommend you try chocolate syrup
with whipped cream.) Just like whipped cream, beware of getting the syrup (or anything sugary) inside the vagina.
An extra fun thing to do with chocolate syrup is to use it to write messages of love on your partner's body. Since chocolate syrup is drippy like paint, it works much better for body art than whipped cream. Use larger areas such as the back, stomach, or butt to drizzle little hearts, perhaps initials, or filthy names your partner likes being called in bed across their body.
Illustrated by Louisa Cannell. More
If you and your partner indulge in cannabis and truly want to up the ante, incorporate cannabis chocolates into your sex life by feeding them to one another before sex as part of foreplay. The reputation of the cannabis plant as
an aphrodisiac is growing, from cannabis-based intimacy oils (like Foria) to weed strains designed specifically to make you orgasm.
The act of placing a cannabis chocolate in your mouth and asking your partner to take a bite (like a spaghetti kiss but with weed) is an intimate act in and of itself. A fun game to play is to stick with foreplay until the effects of the edible kick in, which can be an entire hour. An important reminder whenever using cannabis edibles: Start with a low dosage (5-10 mg).
"Be really careful with edibles, because they take time to kick in, and they bring about a more intense high than smoking or vaping," says cannabis-friendly dating coach
Molly Peckler. Illustrated by Louisa Cannell. More
Foreplay doesn't begin in the bedroom. Spaghetti and tomato sauce is the ultimate comfort food, and many of us have pleasant childhood associations of the delicious red dish. Surprise your partner by making a home-cooked meal of spaghetti. Your home will be flooded with rich aromas of garlic, butter, and tomato sauce, creating a warm atmosphere ripe for post-meal love-making (if you can push past the pasta coma).
Once the dinner is ready, if you want to try sexy spaghetti, go
Lady and the Tramp- style and enjoy a spaghetti kiss (although I'd suggest using a napkin as a bib first, unless you're eating naked and don't mind getting messy). Illustrated by Louisa Cannell. More Like what you see? How about some more R29 goodness, right here? The Best Sex Positions For When A Penis Seems Too Big To Handle These Positions Will Make Shower Sex As Hot As It Sounds I Went To A Weed Play Party & Dear Lord Did I Have Fun