Most mainstream romance movies tend to skew heterosexual, which makes picking out date-night flicks more than difficult for us queer folk. Sure, I still have fun watching films like How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days and Sleepless in Seattle, but LGBTQ+ people deserve to see themselves represented in rom-coms just as often as straight people. This goes double for queer women, trans people, and people of color, who have even slimmer pickings than gay men when it comes to entertainment. For the love of Madonna, where are the nuanced, interesting movies about queer love?
Answer: Right here. You have to dig a little deeper, but good romance movies about queer people do exist. Below, see a guide to some really great picks, no matter what your sexual identity is. Most are available to stream right now.
This poignant drama explores the passionate relationship that develops between Carol (Cate Blanchett), a stylish matriarch in a crumbling marriage, and Therese (Rooney Mara), a young shopgirl on the verge of her sexual awakening. It's a beautiful, devastating film that stays with you long after you've finished watching it. (Also, Sarah Paulson is in this, and she straight up doesn't make bad movies. That's just a fact.) Stream here.
The Way He Looks
This touching Brazilian film tracks the new, exciting romance between a blind student (Ghilherme Lobo) and the handsome young man who joins his class (Fabio Audi). Stream here.
Blue Is the Warmest Color (2013)
One of the most decorated queer films of all time, Blue Is the Warmest Color is a raw, unflinching look into the decadelong relationship between 15-year-old Adele (Adèle Exarchopoulos) and the cool, older art student (Léa Seydoux) who literally turns her head. Watching this movie is a gut-wrenching but ultimately rewarding experience. Stream here.
Controversy surrounded the release of this Indian Canadian film, which centers on the blossoming forbidden romance between two women trapped in loveless marriages. Purchase here.
Desert Hearts (1986)
Recently divorced and fed up with her life in New York City, a college professor (Helen Shaver) flees to Reno, where she begins a relationship with another woman (Patricia Charbonneau). Come for the romantic premise. Stay for the tongue-in-cheek humor peppered throughout this charming movie. Stream here.
Holding the Man (2015)
The plot of this film isn't original, but it's nonetheless effective: In 1970s Australia, two boys fall in love, but they must battle ignorant relatives and repressive social attitudes in order to have a relationship. Stream here.
The Incredibly True Adventures of Two Girls in Love (1995)
Two high school girls—one out and ostracized, the other popular and sheltered—must navigate judgmental friends and family members when they fall in love. It's a touching (but also very funny) story that was light-years ahead of its time. Purchase here.
Saving Face (2004)
Saving Face is one of the best romantic comedies of the past 20 years; it's a shame that more people haven't seen it. The film tells the story of Wilhelmina (Michelle Krusiec), a 28-year-old surgeon living in New York City, who falls for a dancer named Vivian (Lynn Chen). However, Wilhelmina must keep the relationship secret from her conservative mother (Joan Chen), which is easy enough—until her mother gets pregnant and moves in with her. That's when things get interesting. And hilarious. Stream here.
Aimee & Jaguar (2000)
This German World War II drama chronicles the real-life romance between Felice (Maria Schrader), a Jewish woman working at a Nazi newspaper for an underground organization, and a maid named Ilse (Johanna Wokaleka), who is employed by the wife of a Nazi soldier. Stream here.
Pit Stop (2013)
Pit Stop is Brokeback Mountain with a smaller budget: Two men in rural Texas who always bump into each other at the local gas station begin a relationship. However, they're each still involved with their ex-girlfriends, which, of course, creates conflict. There's a palpable, almost sweaty silence to Pit Stop that keeps you intrigued until the very end. Stream here.
My Summer of Love (2005)
Emily Blunt makes her film debut in this searing British drama about the passionate, toxic affair between a spoiled, cynical teenager (Blunt) and an unpolished girl from North Yorkshire (Natalie Press). Stream here.
The Kids Are All Right (2010)
Julianne Moore and Annette Bening play a couple whose relationship is tested when their children (Mia Wasikowska and Josh Hutcherson) want to meet their sperm donor father (Mark Ruffalo). It's a rip-roaringly fun film that punches you in the feels at the very end. Stream here.
Full disclosure: Weekend is my favorite queer film of all time, so my recommending it might be a little biased. But it's so good! Two men begin a passionate, sexual relationship a week before one of them is leaving the country. But what happens when real feelings develop? Watch to find out! Stream here.
Drifting Flowers (2008)
This stunning—but admittedly depressing—film covers three separate female-centric love stories. Each story has something compelling (and heartbreaking) to say about homosexuality. It's definitely worth a watch. Purchase here.
High Art (1998)
Is High Art a little clichéd? Yes. However, the film's titillating central romance between a magazine art director (Radha Mitchell) and a fallen photo prodigy (Ally Sheedy) is enough to keep you hooked. Stream here.
Boy Meets Girl (2014)
Boy Meets Girl is the kind of sensitive, mushy fare you watch when you just need a good cry. (You know, like This Is Us, except without a grandma-wig-clad Mandy Moore.) It follows the emotional journey of a trans girl, Ricky (Michelle Hendley), whose world is turned upside down when she falls for a debutante named Francesca (Alexandra Turshen). Stream here.
Front Cover (2015)
After getting off to a rocky start, an unexpected, whirlwind romance forms between a gay fashion stylist and a Chinese movie star who seems homophobic at first. We need more films, especially queer films, with Asian leads front and center like this. Stream here.
Reaching for the Moon (2013)
This Brazilian flick tells the real-life love story of American poet Elizabeth Bishop (Miranda Otto) and the Brazilian architect Lota de Macedo Soare (Glória Pires). It's beautifully shot and wonderfully acted, albeit a tad melodramatic. But isn't that love? Stream here.
A young love story starring Adepero Oduye as a teenager living in Fort Greene neighborhood of Brooklyn, keeping her sexual identity a secret from her parents, whose marriage is crumbling. But when she befriends the daughter of one of her mother's colleagues (Aasha Davis), a friendship—and romance—soon blooms. Stream here.
Naz & Maalik (2014)
Two closeted Muslim teens living in Brooklyn (Curtiss Cook Jr. and Kerwin Johnson Jr.) keep their romance a secret from their families in this moving drama, which has a 79% rating on Rotten Tomatoes. And things become even more complicated when an FBI agent begins tracking them. Purchase here.
Tru Love (2013)
One of the most honest portrayals of lesbian love ever, this film explores what happens when a woman finds herself in a relationship with her friend's mother. Intrigued? You should be. Stream here.
Boys Don’t Cry (1999)
Hilary Swank won her first Academy Award for portraying Brandon Teena, a real-life trans man who is killed by two acquaintances after they find out his identity. Chloë Sevigny plays Lana, the girl whom Brandon falls in love with. Stream here.
Brokeback Mountain (2005)
Sorry, I had to put this one on the list. Brokeback Mountain almost won Best Picture at the Oscars, y'all! It's required queer viewing, even though there are better LGBTQ+ films out there. Stream here.
Christopher Rosa is the entertainment writer at Glamour.
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