When you have money (read: more than two dollars in your bank account), you really don't have many limitations for what you can and can't have. If you want your Chipotle bowl topped with guac, you let them lay it on even if it's extra $$$. And if you want your partner to maintain a certain BMI even after you get married, money can make that happen, too...
Why? How? Well, let me introduce to you a lil thing called the prenuptial agreement, which is a contract signed by couples before they get hitched that lays out monetary arrangements and assets should their marriage end. And according to the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, just this year, 62 percent of couples are seeking prenups. So it's quickly becoming the norm.
"The premise of prenups is to limit disputes in the event of divorce or death," says Alton L. Abramowitz, a divorce attorney with law firm, SSRGA. "They are based on things that have gone wrong in the lives of others, along with the fears and sometimes loathing of the prospective bride and groom and their families."
That said, there are also some pretty sus demands that go beyond who is going to get the wedding ring and house. "Oftentimes, when crazy prenup requests arise, my advice is to suggest the parties reconsider the marriage," says Abramowitz. Still, we wanna see them! So, we asked lawyers all over the country to dish on the craziest, most WTF requests they've seen from couples seeking prenups:
1. "I worked on a clause that said, 'Husband's weight should not exceed 180 pounds, and if it did, he must pay the wife $5,000 for every additional pound annually until back to target weight,'" says an anonymous divorce attorney in New York City, the same source for 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6.
2. "Wife must lose all of her baby weight in 10 months after having the baby on a schedule."
3. "If a spouse dies of natural causes or surgical procedures, the other spouse gets to keep the house. If the spouse's death is a result of a homicide, the house is auctioned off and proceeds are donated to charity."
4. "Limit of one Sunday Night Football Game per month for the husband, and a limit of one season of the Bachelor/Bachelorette per year for the wife—all which must be watched from the den or bedroom, not occupying the largest TV in the house."
5. "Must live at least five miles from in-laws and they should only be allowed to visit once per month, unless babysitting."
6. "Must have sex at least three times per week."
7. "The husband-to-be wanted his wife and her best friend for a threesome on his wedding night. The wife agreed," says Ken Jewell, divorce attorney in New York City
8. "The wife-to-be wanted a $100,000 per incident payment from the husband-to-be in the event he cheated on her. The request was driven by the fact that the wife-to-be hooked up with him when he was married to another woman who divorced him because of the affair. He also had a reputation for being a serial cheater and thought the $100,000 per incident payment would prevent him from continuing his adulterous tendencies. Of course, it didn't," says Jewell.
9. "I've seen ladies put their lab-grown diamond engagement rings on a prenup. And while, traditionally, ladies list their engagement ring as separate property when it’s a family heirloom or includes natural diamonds, which can be valuable, it makes no sense to include lab-grown diamonds, as they are of no inherent value. Essentially, they're worthless," says divorce attorney Louis Atlas.
10. "I've also seen provisions regarding chores and social media. It’s often about cleaning the house, doing the laundry, grocery shopping, or how much time one can spend on social media," says Atlas.
11. "One husband agreed to a clause that stated: 'Spouse gets paid X amount per years married' in exchange for being able to cheat on his spouse once per month," says legal analyst at FitSmallBusiness.com, Jeff White.
12. “One wife requested that if her marriage ended, then her ex-husband would continue to pay every month for her to travel on toll roads for ten years,” says White.
13. "Another husband requested that if his marriage ended, he would be able to pay a certain amount of money in a lump sum settlement. But in turn, he would earn the right to veto anyone his ex-wife would date for three years," says White.
14. "The husband-to-be asked for very specific daily tasks expected to be completed during the marriage, including home-cooked meals and frequent sex," says Carson Epes Steinbauer, a family law attorney in Dallas.
15. "I've worked on prenuptial agreements that contain beauty budgets—including how much may be allocated to spend for hair styling, manicures, pedicures, botox, plastic surgery, personal trainers, shopping, and personal shoppers," says Rebecca Provder of Moses & Singer LLP.
16. "I've worked with couples who have signed pet 'nups. They indicate who gets custody of the pet or sets forth a shared access time schedule, so that both pet parents can continue to maintain a relationship with the pet post-divorce. I also worked on prenups that go into great detail regarding expenses, such as payment of food, veterinary, dog walks, and cat sitting costs," says Provder.
17. "The most extreme prenup clause that my client wanted drafted into the agreement was a promise from the to be bride to maintain physical fitness. The client had specific weight and 'Body-Mass Index' (BMI) criteria that the bride was expected to fully maintain," says Davis Riescher, family law attorney and CEO of Legaladvice.com
18. "It's illegal in various states to write this into a prenuptial agreement, but many women have requested higher settlements that mirror the number of children they have for their husband," says Nicole Noonan, owner of divorce funding firm, New Chapter Capital.
19. "A client has requested that it be written into the prenuptial agreement that all the pets would stay together after the divorce, and would have visitation rights," says Noonan.
20. "'If I get through six months with you' clauses, where a client requests a certain amount of money if they get through the first six months of the marriage," says Noonan.
21. "I've seen clauses that spell out where they spend each holiday, and with whom," says Noonan.
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