Man's dating faux pas sparks Twitter debate: 'I never want to feel that way again'
A romance author shared a first date mishap on Twitter last week — to very mixed reactions.
Alisha Ray posted that on the day before Valentine's Day she went on a first date at a coffee shop. Everything was fine, up until her date went up to the front counter to grab their drink order and returned with two treats. For himself.
yesterday I met a guy for coffee and he asked what I’d like to drink and went and fetched the order. And he came back with two cake pops and I was like aw that’s cute! and then he ate them both. in front of me.
.............so like he’s clearly a monster right— Alisha Rai (@AlishaRai) February 15, 2020
In a follow-up tweet, she said:
“it’s a whole day (almost twenty four hours) later and I am still marveling over this man who is on a date and buys two whole cake pops – which is equal to the number of people on this date – and doesnt offer a single cake pop. to said date.”
The tweet blew up with nearly 360,000 favorites and over 23,000 retweets, and divided Twitter on whether the date etiquette was actually impolite.
While some agreed with Ray that it was a startling move for someone to make on a first date, others thought Ray was spoiled or "entitled" for assuming the date should have given her one of the cake pops.
The whole debate seems very strange to me. Am I the only person who simply orders what she wants without expecting someone else to cater for me? I would never expect someone else's dessert 😳
— cornelia grey (@corneliagrey) February 15, 2020
How old is he? If he’s in his 30s, then yes. If he’s 23 tho, he just hasn’t learned yet
— the hyggiest (@hyggiest) February 15, 2020
Yeah no, by 23 he should know not to buy food he didn't intend to share ON A DATE.
It's fine if coffee was what was established & he got just coffee
Coming back with two items of food and eating both sounds like an intentional slight, though it seems this one was just oblivious.— Amber Adams (@wannabesongbird) February 15, 2020
Exactly! Also if I came on a first date to coffee I would never ask for food and expect him to buy me that unless he also said I'm gunna get something to eat, do yiu want something?
— BrutallyHonestB (@0fficialhonesty) February 16, 2020
— hend amry (@LibyaLiberty) February 15, 2020
Ray, on the other hand, insists that she was just joking about the mishap.
If you’re a part of Humorless Twitter and have decided to spend days berating me for being (clearly the world’s least ambitious) gold digger, you may not like my books. Or really anything, I imagine. I’m sorry. 😔
— Alisha Rai (@AlishaRai) February 16, 2020
And joked about the viral Twitter moment on her Instagram account, captioning her most recent upload with "someday my cake prince will come."
someday my cake prince will come
A post shared by Alisha Rai (@alisharaiwrites) on Feb 20, 2020 at 1:57pm PST