I didn't know what to expect once I became a mother. But after having a baby, I learned some valuable lessons that I think moms-to-be should hear. Because growing a human is no simple mission . . . and then you must give birth to said human - asking your fragile, healing, postpartum body to show more endurance and resilience than it has ever been asked to show before. Your delicate bundle is placed in your arms, and the world as you once knew it spins off its axis. The excitement is palpable and the congratulations are endless.
But then you return home and your supply of adrenaline may abandon you without warning. You may feel as though you are hanging from the edge of exhaustion, clawing and grasping for a glimpse of who you used to be. The sleepless nights catch up with you. The seriousness of your newfound responsibility terrifies you. Loved ones may begin tossing their expectations into the mix - ones you have no desire to meet - and so begins the mom guilt.
I know from experience that even the wisest soul is incapable of preparing another person for the emotional and psychological complexities of postpartum and motherhood. So ahead are 12 ideas to keep in mind - things I wish I had known before giving birth to my daughter five months ago - that will support you through this life-altering transition. Remember - you can do hard things, Mom, but you must be soft with yourself in the process.