The following story, written by Renee Jain, was originally published on GoZen.
You're seven years old and you're busy building the greatest fort that has ever been constructed in the history of the universe! Your mom comes over and asks you to put your shoes on because it's time to pick up your sister from dance class. Naturally, you say, "I don't want to go right now."
Ignoring your genius innovation, your mom responds, "There is no one to stay with you here and we can't be late to pick up your sister, honey."
You make your case more obvious by pointing to your construction and elaborating, "Um, Mom, I'm building something right now, and I'm old enough to stay here by myself."
"Not yet, sweetie," she says softly.
You're left with no option. While she's pulling out your shoes, you make a call and then turn to your mom and say, "It's OK, I called the babysitter . . . she'll be here soon."
Your mom mumbles something about you testing her patience and having a strong will. You didn't want to test anything, you just wanted to build your fort!
If you have a strong will, it's true you might test the patience of those who care for you. You might want to do things for yourself instead of having grown-ups showing you how to do them. In order to make your point, you sometimes say or do things that may hurt the feelings of those you love. You're not trying to make anyone feel bad, you're just trying to do your thing!
If you're a child with a strong will, flexibility and active listening will be skills you'll want to master in order to forge strong relationships. But you should also remember you have some incredible superpowers. Here are 11 of them: