As soon as Wednesday night’s vice presidential debate ended, like clockwork, cable news pundits and focus groups assessed Democratic vice presidential nominee Kamala Harris’ performance using sexist and racist undertones.
Republican pollster Frank Luntz said his focus group of undecided voters deemed Harris, the first Black and Asian American woman on a major-party presidential ticket, “condescending” and “abrasive.”
Fox News host Bret Baier asked Karl Rove if the California senator was “likeable.”
“If she was trying to, she failed at it,” Rove said.
Similarly, Fox News host Geraldo Rivera took issue with her “over-smirking, over-smiling.” Overall though, he said, he felt she did well in showing debate viewers she was “not a scary lady.”
In a tweet, Sen. Chuck Grassley (R-Iowa) wrote that he would prefer to have dinner with Vice President Mike Pence, the “MOST LIKEABLE” of the two.
After the pence/Harris debate the winner is usually the one u would want to have dinner with.... I think pence would get the invitation MOST LIKEABLE
— ChuckGrassley (@ChuckGrassley) October 8, 2020
And on and on and on.
President Donald Trump, who has used no shortage of racist and sexist attacks against Harris, weighed in too.
In what amounted to a call-in therapy session on Fox Business on Thursday morning, the president called Harris “totally unlikeable.” Later, Trump referred to the senator as “this monster that was on stage with Mike Pence.”
Trump refers to Kamala Harris as "this monster" pic.twitter.com/hcnUpV8PBf
— Aaron Rupar (@atrupar) October 8, 2020
All of it is exhausting — and exhaustingly predictable.
Throughout the debate, Pence repeatedly interrupted and talked over both Harris and moderator Susan Page. As Pence told a series of lies and tried to deflect from the Trump administration’s failed response to the COVID-19 pandemic, Harris’ facial expressions summed it all up, as if to say: “Can you believe this guy?”
For many women and women of color, it was all too eerily familiar. Harris endured Pence’s gaslighting, interrupting and mansplaining, all while being hyperaware that her every move was being scrutinized. She had to perform the impossible gymnastics of being assertive and direct — without seeming too “aggressive” or “bitchy” or “unlikeable” — and showing emotion — without seeming too “hysterical” or “weak” or “shrill.”
At times, Harris looked like she was trying to show restraint and not display her emotions, and to figure out the most diplomatic way to call out Pence. It was yet another manifestation of that vicious cycle: be firm, but not angry; advocate for yourself, but do it respectfully.
If you’re a woman and especially a woman of color in politics, it seems like you can never win.
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This article originally appeared on HuffPost and has been updated.