Jay says that after his son was born, things between him and the baby’s mother, Cassie, got stressful. The two argue often, sometimes yelling and screaming at each other in front of their young child. After hearing some of their recorded arguments, Dr. Phil has a message for the exes. “The child looks to you as the soft place to fall, and when the child sees the two of you butting heads, and yelling, and screaming at each other, then the child thinks I’m not safe,” Dr. Phil says. “And, as the child gets older, then the child starts to blame themselves.” Hear more from Dr. Phil in the video above, including a stern warning for Jay. On Thursday’s episode, "'Stop My Brother’s Idiocy,'" Dr. Phil and Robin have some words of encouragement for Jay. Check local listings to see where you can watch. WATCH: Woman Records Explosive Argument With Her Ex In Front Of Their Young Child TELL DR. PHIL YOUR STORY: Need Dr. Phil to get real with someone?