“Time does not heal; that would seem to me to say that suddenly it’s okay, and it’s not,” Richardson’s mother, acting legend Vanessa Redgrave, 81, tells PEOPLE in this week’s issue. “It never becomes OK.”
“You are different. You aren’t stronger or weaker,” Joely, 54, says. “Just different—changed. What we have done well as a family is that in honoring and supporting one another, we reformed to become a strong, loving unit.”RELATED VIDEO: Vanessa Redgrave Teams Up With Daughter Joely Richardson in New Film The Aspern Papers
Natasha, who was 45 and had two children with her husband Liam Neeson, died of trauma to the head in March 2009 after what initially seemed to be a minor fall on a beginner ski slope in Quebec. Redgrave says that the loss gave her and her family new appreciation for their lives and the people in them.
Redgrave and Joely Richardson in London in 2017.
“In my case, I treasure my family much, much more because you realize that the difference being alive and dead is the difference of a little fingernail,” she says. “I think that makes you more aware and more caring.”
Working together in The Aspern Papers and filming in Venice gave Redgrave — also mom to son Carlo Gabriel with her partner Franco Nero — and Joely another opportunity to spend time together. (They also costarred in the TV series Nip/Tuck.)
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“Try to find the joy in life because we are so lucky to be here,” Joely says. “Every day, every birthday that goes by, I’m just so grateful.”
The Aspern Papers, also starring Jonathan Rhys Meyers, is out now.