Selena Gomez reveals she was planning to adopt a child at 35 before dating Benny Blanco

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Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco have been open about their love and relationship after going public late last year.

In a new interview for Time, released on May 29, the “Only Murders in the Building” star shared how she started falling for the producer, as well as how she was considering adopting a child before their friendship turned romantic.

Gomez first touched on going through heartbreak and her feelings of “being alone.”

“I was alone for five years, and I got really used to it. A lot of people are afraid of being alone and I probably tortured myself in my head for like two years being alone,” she said. “And then I kind of accepted it.”

“Then I came up with my plan, which was I was going to adopt at 35 if I had not met anyone,” she added.

Gomez said that she asked Blanco if he knew anyone that he could set her up with and when he introduced her to his friend at a birthday party, she realized she liked Blanco.

“It just happens when you least expect it,” she said.

Selena Gomez poses for a picture with her boyfriend, Benny Blanco, on Instagram. (@selenagomez via Instagram)
Selena Gomez poses for a picture with her boyfriend, Benny Blanco, on Instagram. (@selenagomez via Instagram)

Gomez and Blanco have known each other for quite some time. Through the years, Gomez has collaborated with Blanco on a few of her hit songs, including “Kill Em with Kindness,” “Same Old Love” and “I Can’t Get Enough.”

Then, after she released her August 2023 track “Single Soon,” which Blanco co-produced, she confirmed she was seeing the record producer when she shared a photo of them kissing on Instagram.

In the caption, Gomez said their PDA session was one of her “favorite moments” while spending some time in New York.

But when did Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco first meet? Ahead, a complete timeline of Gomez and her new boyfriend's relationship.

October 2015: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco work together

In 2015, Gomez released her second studio album, "Revival." For that project, Blanco was credited as a producer on several songs, such as “Kill Em with Kindness” and “Same Old Love.”

February 2019: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco collaborate on 'I Can’t Get Enough'

In 2019, Blanco and Gomez got back in the studio to work on the track “I Can’t Get Enough," which also features Tainy and J Balvin.

In the music video, Blanco and the three artists danced around on a giant-sized bed.

August 2023: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco collaborate on 'Single Soon'

In August 2023, Gomez released her latest song, "Single Soon," where she sings about the excitement that someone can feel when they get out of a relationship.

While teasing the song on Instagram, Gomez said she wrote the upbeat tune "a while back" and said her song was "perfect for the end of summer."

Blanco also has production credits on this song as well.

December 2023: Selena Gomez confirms she's dating Benny Blanco

In December 2023, Gomez confirmed that she and Blanco were dating when she liked and replied to a post about her relationship status.

Instagram account Popfactions wrote, "#SelenaGomez seemingly confirms that she is in a relationship."

A few days later, Gomez responded in the comments with the single word: "Facts."

Fans also rejoiced when Gomez liked another Popfactions post that said she and Blanco were rumored to be dating.

At the time, reps for Gomez and Blanco did not reply to TODAY.com’s request for comment.

As news started to heat up about a romance between the two, Gomez shared a black-and-white photo of her snuggling up to a mystery man in a zebra-printed shirt that many eagle-eyed fans speculated was Blanco.

Is Selena Gomez dating Benny Blanco? (@selenagomex via Instagram)
Is Selena Gomez dating Benny Blanco? (@selenagomex via Instagram)

December 2023: Selena Gomez shares kissing pic with Benny Blanco

In December 2023, Gomez went Instagram official with Blanco when she shared a sweet picture of them kissing.

In the post, Gomez also shared some of her "favorite moments" that happened while she spent time in New York. She included a photo of her attending a soirée with her friend Taylor Swift and another pic of her and Blanco at what appeared to be a dinner party.

In that snap, Blanco has his arms wrapped around Gomez while she smiles for the camera.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco (@selenagomez via Instagram)
Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco (@selenagomez via Instagram)

December 2023: Selena Gomez opens up about her love life

In a December 2023 interview with Vogue México y Latinoamérica, Gomez opened up about her love life and revealed what she's looking for in a partner.

"Honestly, I have to start being attracted to the right kind of people, because it’s a bit of both," she said. "It’s very hard to find someone who can listen to you and care about you, but I know when it happens it will be great and you will want it to be healthy."

In the interview, Gomez also said she hopes to become a mother one day, saying it's “fundamental to her life’s purpose.”

January 2024: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco attend a Lakers game together

On Jan. 3, Gomez and Blanco were seen sitting courtside at a Lakers game. As the Lakers faced off against the Miami Heat, the couple were seen cuddling up next to each other.

At one point, Gomez laid her head on Blanco's shoulder, and in other moments, he was photographed kissing her hand and placing his hand on her knee.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco (Allen Berezovsky / Getty Images)
Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco (Allen Berezovsky / Getty Images)

January 2024: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco kiss at the Golden Globe Awards

On Jan. 7, Gomez posted a photo on her Instagram stories of her and Blanco locking lips, the same night she was at the Golden Globes. Decked out in a red dress she wore to the event, Gomez is seen pressing her lips into Blanco's.

"I won," she captioned the picture.

@selenagomez via Instagram
@selenagomez via Instagram

Gomez's comment alludes to her defeat in the best performance by a female actor in a television series (musical or comedy) category. She was nominated for her role in "Only Murders in the Building," but lost to Ayo Edebiri for “The Bear.”

January 2024: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco host a surprise PJ-themed party for Nicola Peltz Beckham

In an Instagram post shared Jan. 13, Nicola Peltz Beckham shared fun pictures from a pajama party hosted by none other than the couple themselves.

Selena and Benny are twinning in their PJs.
Selena and Benny are twinning in their PJs.

Featuring the group decked out in matching PJ sets, Beckham wrote that her best friends surprised her with the birthday gathering, sharing that they played games and she felt “so loved.”

“i love you all so much,” she wrote. “and thank you benny for making the best food everrrr and you and sel for hosting.”

Feb. 6, 2024: The two stars being cute

On Feb. 6, both Gomez and Blanco took to their Instagram stories to share a peek into their lives as a couple.

Selena Gomez hides her face behind a photo of her younger self. (@itsbennyblanco / Instagram)
Selena Gomez hides her face behind a photo of her younger self. (@itsbennyblanco / Instagram)

Blanco shared a photo of Gomez hiding her face as her beau brandishes an autographed photo of her from her child star days.

In a post to her own story, Gomez and Blanco seemed to be together in a vehicle as she rubbed her fuzzy-sock-clad feet on him.

Gomez rubs her feet in fuzzy socks on Benny Blanco inside a vehicle. He's holding a pink iphone. (@selenagomez / Instagram)
Gomez rubs her feet in fuzzy socks on Benny Blanco inside a vehicle. He's holding a pink iphone. (@selenagomez / Instagram)

Feb. 12, 2024: Selena Gomez shares new photos of their lives together

In a carousel of photos posted to her Instagram, Gomez revealed some behind-the-scenes looks at her life with Blanco.

"My bes fwend," she captioned the post. The pictures showed the two musicians cooking together and spending time at a party. The last photo shows Gomez and Blanco sharing a romantic moment while one of their friends seemingly yells into a Golden Globe statue like a microphone as "The Bear" actor Matty Matheson looks on.

Feb. 23, 2024: Selena Gomez hilariously recalls how Benny Blanco embarrassed her at the Emmys

During a Feb. 23 appearance on “Jimmy Kimmel Live!" Gomez recalled an “awkward” situation that happened to her at the Emmys when she was with Blanco.

“This is kind of embarrassing. This is such a weird habit. But every night I fall asleep to the same show,” she explained. “And it’ll either be ‘Friends’ or something comfy. But lately, it’s ‘How I Met Your Mother.’ So I fall asleep every night just watching the show and I’m a fan.”

Gomez then said that she crossed paths with Jason Segel at the Emmys and things got awkward once she noticed that he was waving in her direction. But, after waving back, Gomez soon learned he was actually waving to someone behind her.

“He felt awkward and then inclined to come over,” she said.

However, once they were face to face, Gomez said Blanco told him, “Oh, she falls asleep to you every night.”

“I was like, ‘That’s weird!’” Gomez said with a shocked expression on her face, laughing. “But I do!”

March 8, 2024: Selena Gomez celebrates Benny Blanco's birthday

On March 8, Gomez celebrated Blanco's birthday when she shared a few sweet pictures and videos of them together on Instagram.

In the post, Gomez shared a snap of her kissing Blanco, as well as a video of them kissing each other in the dark.

selena gomez benny blanco (@selenagomez via Instagram)
selena gomez benny blanco (@selenagomez via Instagram)

She captioned it, “Happy birthday baby! Your emotional endurance, positive disposition, unbelievable talent (that blows me away), undeniable humor and loving, kind heart absolutely kill me. I love you @itsbennyblanco.”

Blanco commented with several emoji, including the happy face with tears emoji.

April 25, 2024: Benny Blanco recalls falling "in love" with Selena Gomez

Blanco opened up about his relationship with Gomez in an April 25 interview with The Wall Street Journal.

Blanco said it took him a while to catch on to his connection with Gomez. He realized he was interested in Gomez when they were in the middle of a recording session.

“I was the last one to know,” he said. “It’s crazy how your partner could just be sitting there the whole time, right in front of your eyes, and you don’t even notice, and then you have that 'Clueless' moment where you’re like, Wait, I’m in love.”

April 29, 2024: Benny Blanco cooks steak for Selena Gomez

On Instagram, Blanco shared a video of himself making Gomez the "perfect" steak dinner.

"All right, guys, I woke up early this morning and I was like, I want to do something nice for my girlfriend and I was thinking like, whenever I want to put a smile on her face or get laid, I just make her steak," he says in the video.

Once he was done making the meal, Blanco left it beside Gomez's bed along with a handwritten note that said, “I Love You! Sleep Well! I Made You Steak!"

The clip then ended with a cute shot of them holding hands.

"The perfect steak," Blanco captioned the video, and Gomez replied with an adorable red heart emoji.

Blanco also commented, "My baby 💜."

April 30, 2024: Selena Gomez attends Benny Blanco's book party

Blanco released his new book, "Open Wide: A Cookbook for Friends," where he shares his best dinner party recipes.

To celebrate, Blanco threw a party featuring a cake in the shape of the book.

On Instagram, Gomez shared pics from the party. In one snap, she kisses his life-size cake and in another, she poses for the camera while Blanco hugs her from behind.

"So proud of @itsbennyblanco — Open Wide is out now!!" she captioned the post.

May 1, 2024: Benny Blanco talks about cooking for Selena Gomez

Benny Blanco opened up about his relationship with Selena Gome while talking about his new cookbook, “Open Wide: A Cookbook for Friends,” on TODAY With Hoda & Jenna. Blanco recalled the time when he made a “perfect” steak dinner for Gomez.

While joking about the moment, he said he advises everyone learn to cook to win over potential partners.

“Look at me, the only way I got where I am is by cooking food. Are you kidding me? That’s the best first date in the world, you cook up some food! How could anyone not love you if you’re making them a huge steak with potatoes and salad,” he said.

Blanco then talked about how it felt to have Gomez at his book party and what it’s like to have a supportive girlfriend by his side.

“I wake up every day and I look in the mirror and I’m like, ‘How did this happen?’ Until anyone figures it out, ‘Wee!’” he joked.

May 2, 2024: Selena Gomez gushes over Benny Blanco in TODAY interview

In an interview with TODAY's Hoda Kotb at her makeup line Rare Beauty's Mental Health Summit, Gomez gushed about Blanco when Kotb talked about meeting him.

"I had the privilege of meeting a really cute, nice guy," the TODAY show host said before Gomez burst out in a giggle. "His name is Benny Blanco."

"When you said you are sum total of the five people you spend the most time with, so choose wisely — you're choosing wisely," Kotb continued. "I felt that right away.

“It feels wonderful. He’s wonderful,” Gomez responded, giggling.

May 29, 2024: Selena Gomez says she thinking about adopting a child before dating Benny Blanco

In a Time interview, Gomez shared that she after years of being single, she made a plan to become a parent before she and Blanco started dating.

“I was alone for five years, and I got really used to it. A lot of people are afraid of being alone and I probably tortured myself in my head for like two years being alone, and then I kind of accepted it," she told the magazine. "Then I came up with my plan, which was I was going to adopt at 35 if I had not met anyone.”

She shared that she asked Blanco if he had any friends he could set her up with. When he introduced her to his friend at a party, that's when Gomez realized she was actually interested in Blanco.

“It just happens when you least expect it,” she said.

This article was originally published on TODAY.com