Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth got engaged less than a year after meeting in 2010. Just days before their 12-year wedding anniversary, the pair announced their "difficult decision" to divorce
The actress and the talent agent announced the news on Instagram with a joint statement on March 24, writing that they made the "difficult decision to divorce" with "a great deal of care and consideration." The pair added that they're focused on their family, including their 10-year-old son Tennesee James, amid their split and asked for privacy.
A source told PEOPLE of the breakup, "They really are the best of friends and this is such an amicable decision. They are so committed to co-parenting together. They are invested in their whole family and making this as smooth as possible for everyone."
In August, the couple settled their divorce and agreed to a parenting plan for their son.
The couple married in March 2011 during a laid-back wedding on Witherspoon's ranch in Ojai, California. Toth quickly bonded with Witherspoon's two children, Deacon and Ava Phillippe, whom she shares with actor Ryan Phillippe, and the couple welcomed a son of their own, Tennessee James, in September 2012.
Here is a complete timeline of Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth's relationship.
January 2010: Reese Witherspoon meets Jim Toth at a friend's house
In a 2012 interview with Elle, the Oscar winner dished about her first meeting with Toth, whom she met at a friend's house shortly after her split from Jake Gyllenhaal. "It happened out of the blue," she recalled. "This really drunk guy was hitting on me, making such an idiot of himself, yelling at me. He was, like, [slurring, scowling, pointing finger in her face] 'You don't know me.' And I was like, 'Yeah, I know. I don't know you!' "
She continued, "Jim came over and said, 'Please excuse my friend. He's just broken up with someone.' Jim was a really good friend, pulling him out of that situation. That's just kind of who he is, a really good person."
February 2010: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth go on a dinner date
The budding couple sparked romance rumors during a dinner date at Santa Monica eatery Locanda Portofino, with a fellow diner telling PEOPLE the pair spent nearly two hours at the Italian hotspot and were "very flirtatious throughout dinner." The source added, "They were having a lot of fun, totally getting along and laughing and talking the whole dinner. Reese seemed very happy. She was smiling all dinner. The mood was upbeat and really good."
March 20, 2010: Reese Witherspoon includes Jim Toth in her birthday celebration
PEOPLE exclusively reported that the Legally Blonde star celebrated her birthday with close pals and brought Toth along. The Pennsylvania native got the seal of approval from Witherspoon's friends, prompting her to introduce him to her children. The foursome also spent time together over Easter weekend.
April 17, 2010: Reese Witherspoon introduces Jim Toth to her famous friends
Less than a month later, PEOPLE reported that Witherspoon introduced her new beau to her A-list friends, including Tobey Maguire, Molly Sims, and Jason Bateman, at a birthday party for Jennifer Garner at Garner's home.
December 2010: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth announce their engagement
PEOPLE confirmed their engagement after a courtship of less than a year. In her 2012 Elle interview, the Walk the Line star admitted she never thought she'd get married again after her divorce from Phillippe. She told the magazine, "Jim said, 'I'm gonna show you every day what a good partner is, what a good person is. I'm going to take care of you. I'm gonna do this so much that you're gonna get used to it.' I was, like, 'What are you talking about?' I've never had anybody like that in my life."
March 26, 2011: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth marry in a backyard ceremony
Witherspoon and Toth exchanged vows surrounded by family and friends. The beaming bride wore a custom Monique Lhuillier blush-colored gown with a Chantilly lace corset bodice and full tulle A-line skirt. The Wild star's daughter, Ava, served as maid of honor and wore a matching custom Lhuillier frock. Witherspoon changed into a second Lhuillier design — a white silk minidress — for the intimate at-home reception. PEOPLE released exclusive wedding photos, with a guest sharing that "there was so much joy in the room and a lot of laughter."
September 7, 2011: Reese Witherspoon gets candid about finding love again with Jim Toth
The Sweet Home Alabama actress told Marie Claire in 2011 that she found being a single parent stressful and didn't believe she'd find someone who would accept her children.
She called herself "very lucky" to find her perfect fit in Toth. "Now I feel a great sense of relief and an incredible amount of support from my husband. … Somebody close to me once said, 'Oh, no man will ever accept your children.' And I just thought it was the most horrifying thing someone has ever said to me in my entire life. I was determined to find somebody who would make that not true. And I got lucky. I did. I got very lucky, and he's wonderful. And so wonderful with the children. I'm very blessed."
March 2012: Reese Witherspoon announces that she and Jim Toth are expecting
Ahead of her 36th birthday, Witherspoon revealed she and Toth were having a baby, with a friend telling PEOPLE the couple was "thrilled" about their impending bundle of joy.
September 27, 2012: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth welcome a baby boy
Witherspoon's rep shared the star's baby news with PEOPLE. "Reese Witherspoon and husband Jim Toth welcomed Tennessee James into their family today," the rep said. "Both mom and baby are healthy and the entire family is thrilled."
January 2016: Reese Witherspoon credits Jim Toth for her pivot to producing
As her acting career continued to skyrocket, Witherspoon told Harper's Bazaar that Toth had a hand in her successful pivot to producing. She recalled him telling her, "You should produce movies. You read more books than anybody I know. You should just buy some of them and turn them into films." That same year, the multi-talented star formed her Hello Sunshine production company, which she sold to Blackstone Group Inc. in August 2021 for $900 million.
April 9, 2016: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth co-chair a charity event in New York City
As co-hosts of the Stand Up to Cancer Standing Room Only event at Cipriani Wall Street in New York City, the pair had a fun night out, dancing on stage to Jamie Foxx's hit "Blame It (on the Alcohol)." The Sing star told PEOPLE that the outing was "sort of" a date night — though she defined her ideal date night a little bit differently. "Going to a nice dinner and not having to wake up at the crack of dawn with the kids. That's nice," she said
Speaking of her husband, she added, "He's an incredible man, a wonderful organizer, a great leader. He knows how to get people together. He's very patient and funny with the kids. And he really encourages them to see the humor in life."
January 19, 2020: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth attend an award show
As one of their final pre-COVID outings, the pair got dressed up to attend the 2020 Producers Guild Awards, with Witherspoon captioning an Instagram picture, "Date night #pgaawards. ✨."
March 22, 2020: Reese Witherspoon has a cozy quarantine birthday with Jim Toth and kids
Witherspoon shared a family selfie on Instagram in honor of her 44th birthday. In her caption, she wrote, "One of the best birthdays ever!🎈So many thoughtful, beautiful, heartfelt messages from so many of you! Some poems, a home-cooked meal, a wonderful performance from my friend, a long nature walk with my family...all gifts from the heart. 🥰Thank you to all of you for making me feel so LOVED! I'm a very lucky lady. 💕💫🎂."
July 27, 2020: Reese Witherspoon celebrates her "amazing hubby" Jim Toth as he turns 50
The Little Fires Everywhere actress shared a gallery of sweet photos in her husband's honor on Instagram. "Happy Birthday to my amazing hubby, Jim!! 💫 Everything you do, you put in 1,000%! Whether he's training for a triathlon, giving back to his community, supporting his friends, or loving his family, he gives his whole heart to so many people every day! I ❤️ you so much, JT! #youmake50lookgood," she captioned the post.
November 2020: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth celebrate the holidays at home with their family
The couple enjoyed a low-key Thanksgiving in 2020, with Witherspoon sharing a family photo from their Thanksgiving table. "Happy Thanksgiving from our family to yours," she wrote on Instagram. "Feeling very grateful for all the frontline workers, medical workers and people who are caring for others today. And I'm deeply grateful for ALL of you! Sending my LOVE. 🥰🦃🍁🥧❤️."
During the family's Christmas celebrations the following month, the actress revealed how challenging it was to get her crew to pose for a portrait. "Merry Christmas from our family to yours! 🥰💫🎄*it only took about 1 hour, 2 bribes and 3 retakes to get all these people in one picture *a small Christmas miracle for MOM😁," she joked on Instagram.
March 26, 2021: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth mark 10 years of marriage
Witherspoon acknowledged a decade of marriage by sharing a wedding photo on Instagram. Her caption read, "Looking back, I can't believe it has gone so quickly! I guess that's how it goes with 3 kids, big LOVE, lots of laughing, non-stop travel, so many dogs, and fun adventures…figuring out this crazy world together. Here's to many more days in the sun!"
June 20, 2021: Reese Witherspoon salutes Jim Toth on Father's Day
Sharing a sweet shot of Tennessee James with his dad on Instagram, the Morning Show star wrote: "Every day is Father's Day over here! 💙 These kids are so lucky to have a loving/ kind/ caring dad like Jim ⬆️ Happy #FathersDay to all the amazing Dads out there!"
Witherspoon also posted a beachside photo of her husband on Instagram with the caption, "Happy Birthday to my wonderful, passionate, curious husband who is obsessed with competitive gravel racing, @traegergrills BBQs, eating crazy healthy foods (like MCT oil and athletic greens 🥬) the best tattoo artists, sunset drives and sports… Literally All of the Sports (especially Pickleball… want him to explain it?) No one loves your family or friends more than you JT. So excited to celebrate you today! 💙🏌️✅🌟🚴🏻⚓️."
January 7, 2022: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth pose for a family photo before Sing 2 premiere
The actress was joined by her crew for the Sing 2 premiere in Los Angeles, sharing a pre-carpet photo on Instagram. "Fun memories from the @SingMovie premiere... Thank you to all who have watched and sang along with us! What was your favorite part of the movie? PS: who ever said pigs can't fly clearly never met Rosita 😉💕."
March 26, 2022: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth celebrate 11 years of marriage
In celebration of their 11th wedding anniversary, Witherspoon shared three Instagram shots of her with Toth, writing: "Happy Anniversary JT!! 💗 11 years of adventures, love & laughter. I feel so lucky to share this wonderful life with you. 💕."
March 24, 2023: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth announce their divorce
Just days before their 12-year wedding anniversary, Witherspoon and Toth announced they were ending their marriage.
"We have some personal news to share... It is with a great deal of care and consideration that we have made the difficult decision to divorce," they wrote in a joint statement on Instagram. "We have enjoyed so many wonderful years together and are moving forward with deep love, kindness and mutual respect for everything we have created together."
"Our biggest priority is our son and our entire family as we navigate this next chapter," they added. "These matters are never easy and are extremely personal. We truly appreciate everyone's respect for our family's privacy at this time."
March 27, 2023: Source says Reese Witherspoon is "disappointed and upset" about divorce from Jim Toth
A source told PEOPLE that Witherspoon "never saw herself getting another divorce" but that she and Toth are "very different people." The insider described the Legally Blonde star as "headstrong and focused," while they called Toth "more laidback."
The source added: "Reese is obviously disappointed and upset. They love Tennessee and this is their focus. They will continue to co-parent amicably. There is no drama."
April 1, 2023: Reese Witherspoon officially files for divorce from Jim Toth
Witherspoon filed for divorce in the Circuit Court of Davidson County, Tenn. According to court documents obtained by PEOPLE, she listed "irreconcilable differences" as the reason for the couple's split. The documents also revealed that the Sweet Home Alabama star and Toth have a prenup in place.
Additionally, Witherspoon asked the court to designate her and the CAA agent as joint custodians of their son, Tennessee.
Shortly after the couple announced their divorce, a source told PEOPLE that Witherspoon and Toth had been "spending less time together" due to the actress' busy work schedule.
"They didn't come to the decision to divorce easily and hastily. It took a long time," the insider added. "This is so hard for both of them. There's no drama. These decisions are so difficult when there is so much friendship and love there."
A second source told PEOPLE that Witherspoon is leaning on her "large group of close friends" during this difficult time.
She has a lot of support," the insider said. "She is positive about her future."
April 17, 2023: Source says Reese Witherspoon has "no regrets" regarding divorce from Jim Toth
According to a source, Witherspoon is "doing much better" after announcing her divorce from Toth nearly a month ago.
"The divorce decision was not an easy one for her. It was rough to reach the decision and to announce it," the insider told PEOPLE. "She has no regrets and is just focused on her kids and work."
July 12, 2023: Reese Witherspoon says it's a "vulnerable time" for her amid divorce from Jim Toth
In her cover story for Harper's BAZAAR, Witherspoon addressed how she's feeling amid her divorce from Toth.
"It’s a vulnerable time for me," she said. "I think about how many other people are going through this experience. I don't feel isolated at all. I feel very connected."
July 18, 2023: Jim Toth vacations with new girlfriend
Four months after Toth and Witherspoon announced their divorce, the former CAA agent was spotted with a new flame.
"Jim was staying with a new girlfriend at the Sendero Nosara in Costa Rica," an onlooker confirmed to PEOPLE. "They seemed to be staying in a suite, and they looked really happy, just chilling and soaking up that pura vida vibe. It was definitely romantic."
August 2, 2023: Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth reach a divorce settlement
Witherspoon and Toth settled their divorce in the Circuit Court of Davidson County, Tennessee. The couple signed a marital dissolution agreement and agreed to a parenting plan for their son.
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