How ‘Lose Control’ singer Teddy Swims survived drowning in a ‘toxic’ relationship — and became pop’s breakout star

Teddy Swims, and the cover of his album
Only music's mightiest -- Beyoncé, Kanye West and Ariana Grande -- have stopped Teddy Swims from going to No. 1 on the Billboard Hot 100.

As one of the biggest breakouts in pop this year, Teddy Swims has ridden the wave of his soul-crushing smash “Lose Control” all the way to No. 2 on the Billboard Hot 100.

And it’s taken a triumvirate of music’s mightiest — Beyoncé, Kanye West and Ariana Grande — to keep the singer-songwriter born Jaten Collin Dimsdale from hitting the top spot the past three weeks.

“Everybody keeps getting in the way,” Swims told The Post over Zoom from his Sherman Oaks, Calif., home. “They’re not trying to let the new kid have it, you know what I mean?”

“It is kind of nuts,” said Teddy Swims of the slow-building success of his soul-crushing smash “Lose Control.” Getty Images for Warner Music
“It is kind of nuts,” said Teddy Swims of the slow-building success of his soul-crushing smash “Lose Control.” Getty Images for Warner Music

Still, nothing can sink Swims after the slow-building success of the first single from his debut album, “I’ve Tried Everything But Therapy (Part 1),” which was released last September.

“It’s honestly an honor,” he said. “Like, none of these people have ever been in my way before, so it’s great to be in the conversation.

“I’m sure at some point … Kanye had to have said, like, ‘Who the hell is Teddy Swims?’ ” he added with a laugh. “And that makes me happy.”

But although Ye and many other industry biggies — as well as discerning music fans all over the map — may just be discovering Swims, the soulful Georgia troubadour is no overnight sensation: In fact, after making his debut in 2019, he released his first EP, “Unlearning,” in 2021.

“Well, you know, as they say … it takes 10 years to build an overnight success,” said Swims. “I’ve been in bands my whole life trying to make something happen. So I definitely feel justified.”

And now, at 31, he’s in a “more mature” place where he won’t lose control with his newfound fame. “As impatient as I was two years ago, I bet I would have just spun out [of control],” said Swims. “You know, I probably would have just threw it all away into my liver or something.”

“Some people just write a good song in a bedroom, and they get swallowed up and spit out,” said Teddy Swims. Chapman Baehler / Warner Records
“Some people just write a good song in a bedroom, and they get swallowed up and spit out,” said Teddy Swims. Chapman Baehler / Warner Records

Swims has also benefited from the kind of artist development at his label Warner Records that doesn’t always happen with today’s TikTok signees.

“Some people just write a good song in a bedroom, and they get swallowed up and spit out,” he said. “These labels are signing these kids, and if they don’t get a second hit, they’re just done.”

However, Swims himself used social media to showcase his powerful pipes on YouTube by posting covers of everything from Michael Jackson’s “Rock with You” to Bonnie Raitt’s “I Can’t Make You Love Me” to Shania Twain’s “You’re Still the One.”

“I was able to kind of show all the things that influenced me and inspired me,” said the Atlanta native, who grew up on such classic soul men as Ray Charles, Al Green and Otis Redding, his “No. 1 of all time.”

Now it’s Swims who is inspiring range- and run-testing covers of “Lose Control.”

“I should not be at the cool kids’ table,” said Teddy Swims. “I’m an insecure, neurotic, chunky scared old man up there.” Tammie Arroyo/AFF-USA/Shutterstock
“I should not be at the cool kids’ table,” said Teddy Swims. “I’m an insecure, neurotic, chunky scared old man up there.” Tammie Arroyo/AFF-USA/Shutterstock

“It’s the sweetest thing in the world to me to see people absolutely murder it too, man,” he said. “They just absolutely kill it.”

But the story behind “Lose Control” — based on a “toxic” relationship in which “we were kind of codependent on each other” — isn’t so sweet.

“The substance of our relationship kind of was the substances we were abusing at the time,” said Swims. “And so we kind of were just living this awful lifestyle. And … we were both pulling each other back and forth in this world.”

Making “I’ve Tried Everything But Therapy (Part 1)” helped to heal both his heart and his mental health.

Teddy Swims performed a duet version of his hit single “Lose Control” with Kelly Clarkson on her talk show in December. NBCUniversal / The Kelly Clarkson Show
Teddy Swims performed a duet version of his hit single “Lose Control” with Kelly Clarkson on her talk show in December. NBCUniversal / The Kelly Clarkson Show

“I was going through quite a breakup at the time, and I think music has been some sort of therapy for me in my life,” Swims said. “I hadn’t tried therapy, and … I think there’s some generational idea or mindset about therapy that’s like, ‘Oh, I don’t need therapy or I don’t need a shrink. I’m not crazy.’ ”

And while Swims is hoping to open up the mental-health conversation, he has already connected with fans who can relate to the raw vulnerability coming from someone who is not your typical pop pinup.

“I should not be at the cool kids’ table,” he said. “I’m an insecure, neurotic, little chunky scared old man up there. And I think that’s what kind of helps nowadays because people can see that, and they’re like, ‘Man, if that guy can do it … then, like, truly anybody can do it.’ ”

After releasing his first EP, “Unlearning,” in 2021, Teddy Swims dropped his debut album, “I’ve Tried Everything But Therapy (Part 1),” last September. Warner Records
After releasing his first EP, “Unlearning,” in 2021, Teddy Swims dropped his debut album, “I’ve Tried Everything But Therapy (Part 1),” last September. Warner Records

Now, as the rising star is working on “Part 2,” he remains grounded by his longtime band members — including guitarist Jesse Hampton, his “best pal” since middle school — who knew him before he became Teddy Swims. (“Teddy” is a childhood nickname, while “Swims” is an acronym for ”someone who isn’t me sometimes.”)

And they’ll have his back singing “Lose Control” for years to come.

“It is kind of nuts,” said Swims. “I’m truly grateful for it.”

But, he quipped, “20 years from now, you’re going to be sick of that song that you’re going to be singing forever.”