Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck Reveal Real Reason Behind 2003 Breakup

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Originally appeared on E! Online

Don't be fooled by the rock Jennifer Lopez has got on now.

After all, her wedding ring from husband Ben Affleck symbolizes a much deeper story. As the "Jenny from the Block" singer explained, she experienced years of heartache before rekindling her romance with the Oscar winner, who she was engaged to during the early aughts before their 2003 breakup.

So, what went wrong in their relationship the first time?

"Ben and I, we broke up three days before our wedding," J.Lo recalled in her new documentary The Greatest Love Story Never Told. "We had a big wedding planned—14 ushers and bridesmaids—and three days before, we just crumbled under the pressure."

Ben echoed the sentiment, sharing in the Amazon Prime doc that the reason behind the split was "the massive amount of scrutiny around our private life."

However, the couple agreed that calling off their first wedding led them each on a self-discovery journey, one that eventually helped them cross paths again when they reconciled in 2021. They tied the knot at a Las Vegas ceremony in July 2022, before saying "I do" at a massive wedding in Georgia the following month.

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"For all those years, it was really hard because I didn't just feel like I lost the love of my life, I felt like I lost the best friend that I ever had," Jennifer remembered of their time apart. "And I couldn't talk for so many years, and that was the hardest part."

Admitting that she was "angry" at Ben for a while, the Grammy winner continued, "But that heartbreak set both of us on a course to figuring ourselves out to being better people."

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During that period, Jennifer gave birth to her 16-year-old twins Max and Emme, who she shares with ex-husband Marc Anthony. Meanwhile, Ben welcomed kids Violet, 18, Seraphina, 15, and Samuel, 11, with ex-wife Jennifer Garner.

For J.Lo, she found peace after forgiving both Ben and herself for their past issues.

"I feel like I came out the other side," she said in the documentary. "I've made it through. I've made something good of my life. I'm proud of that."

For a closer look at the Bennifer love story, keep reading.

December 2001: Filming <i>Gigli</i>

December 2001: Filming <i>Gigli</i>

The two prepare to film a scene for the movie in West Hollywood. The couple met on the set of the film.


October 2002: Spotted in Beverly Hills

October 2002: Spotted in Beverly Hills

The two are spotted in the city.


November 2002: Filming <i>Gigli</i> and Engagement

November 2002: Filming <i>Gigli</i> and Engagement

The two film the movie on Will Rogers State Beach in Los Angeles. That month, the actor proposes to the actress with a 6.1-carat pink diamond ring.


November 2002: Filming <i>Jersey Girl</i>

November 2002: Filming <i>Jersey Girl</i>

The two film the movie in New York City.


November 2002: Leaving MTV's <i>TRL</i>

November 2002: Leaving MTV's <i>TRL</i>

Is there anything more '00s than both Bennifer 1.0 and TRL?


December 2002: Red Carpet Debut

December 2002: Red Carpet Debut

The two make their red carpet debut as a couple at the premiere of her film Maid in Manhattan.


January 2003: Sundance

January 2003: Sundance

The two bundle up at the Sundance Film Festival in Utah.


February 2003: <i>Daredevil</i> Premiere

February 2003: <i>Daredevil</i> Premiere

The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben as the superhero.


February 2003: <i>Daredevil</i> Premiere

February 2003: <i>Daredevil</i> Premiere

The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben and future ex-wife Jennifer Garner.


March 2003: Oscars

March 2003: Oscars

The two attend the Academy Awards together.


May 2003: Basketball Game

May 2003: Basketball Game

The two sit courtside at a Los Angeles Lakers game.


July 2003: Canada Trip

July 2003: Canada Trip

The two film a Dateline interview for NBC in Vancouver.


July 2003: <i>Gigli</i> Premiere

July 2003: <i>Gigli</i> Premiere

The two appear at the premiere for their movie in Westwood, Calif.


August 2003: <i>Gigli</i> Is Released

August 2003: <i>Gigli</i> Is Released

...it flops at the box office.


September 2003: Wedding Is Off

September 2003: Wedding Is Off

The two postpone their wedding. No future date is given.


October 2003: Baseball Date

October 2003: Baseball Date

The two are seen at a Boston Red Sox game. The team is Ben's favorite.


January 2004: It's Over

January 2004: It's Over

The two end their engagement.


September 2021: Red Carpet Royalty

September 2021: Red Carpet Royalty

They're baaaack. On Sept. 10, the couple makes their first red carpet appearance in 18 years at the Venice Film Festival premiere of The Last Duel


September 2021: Look of Love

September 2021: Look of Love

There's no denying J.Lo makes for a stunning plus-one! 


September 2021: Back to the Stage

September 2021: Back to the Stage

Ben supports J.Lo at the 2021 Global Citizen Live event in New York City, where she performed onstage. It marked her first music gig since she performed at VAX LIVE in May, where the actor also appeared onstage separately, fueling rumors of a rekindled romance.


September 2021: Met Gala Debut

September 2021: Met Gala Debut

The two attend the Met Gala together for the first time.


October 2021: PDA at Premiere

October 2021: PDA at Premiere

Jen and Ben put on a sizzling display on the red carpet at the premiere of his film The Last Duel in New York City.


April 2022: Engaged Again!

April 2022: Engaged Again!

Jennifer confirmed her engagement to the Gone Girl actor with a video posted to her On The JLo site, revealing a glimpse of her beautiful engagement ring with a green stone.


July 2022: Married!

July 2022: Married!

On July 16, Jennifer and Ben tied the knot in a surprise ceremony at A Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas.