Hilaria Baldwin's message about being a stepmom to Alec's daughter is so relatable

Rasha Ali
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The mother of four says her language towards Ireland may be different than her biological children out of respect for her mother, Kim Basinger.

Hilaria Baldwin is not here for any slander about her relationship with her stepdaughter, Ireland.

The mother of four opened up about her love for Baldwin's eldest daughter in a touching Instagram post saying that she's careful in how she navigates that relationship.

"So often you hear horror stories about evil stepparents and I wanted to make sure I did right by the family I was stepping into when I married Alec," the 35-year-old mom wrote.

"I love my stepdaughter as much as I love my biological children and I become a mommy lioness when I see comments that insinuate otherwise."

Baldwin continued saying that she believes one of the reasons her and Ireland's relationship has been good is because she knows her boundaries as a stepmom. She never tried to take over Kim Basinger's role as Ireland's mom.

"She has a good mother, who I have tremendous respect for...and I put myself in Kim’s shoes: if my children ever had a stepmother, I’d want her to let me be number one," Baldwin said. "We have never had a fight or a bad moment. Nor have I with her mother. Ireland and I love each other and she knows that I am here for her...and I know that she is here for me."

She addressed the idea that her messages about her children may not include Ireland, but it's not because she doesn't love her, it's out of respect.

"So yes, sometimes my language about my biological children does not include her. Because I did not birth her and I never want to disrespect the fact that she has a wonderful mother," Baldwin wrote. "But this will never take away from how much I love her, need her in my life, and think that she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me."

I rarely address being a stepmom, but it is part of our family. I always want to deal with it with such care...so often you hear horror stories about evil stepparents and I wanted to make sure I did right by the family I was stepping into when I married Alec. I love my stepdaughter as much as I love my biological children and I become a mommy lioness when I see comments that insinuate otherwise. Having a stepchild is a delicate matter. Especially one who is grown. I think my relationship with her has been so successful because I never tried to step in as her mommy. She has a good mother, who I have tremendous respect for...and I put myself in Kim’s shoes: if my children ever had a stepmother, I’d want her to let me be number one. When I met Ireland, I said to Alec: if she is not ok with our relationship, I cannot go further. Family is first and she needed to be ok with me. We have never had a fight or a bad moment. Nor have I with her mother. Ireland and I love each other and she knows that I am here for her...and I know that she is here for me. I am inspired by her, look up to her (not just height wise 😂)...she gave her father away at our wedding, is the best big sister anyone could ask for...and I give her space. I don’t ever expect her to be anyone other than herself. As someone who loves her, my job was not to step in and take over...but rather respect what had been for the first 15 years of her life and then become a part of that, in a way that works for everyone. So yes, sometimes my language about my biological children does not include her. Because I did not birth her and I never want to disrespect the fact that she has a wonderful mother. But this will never take away from how much I love her, need her in my life, and think that she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. Please don’t look for trouble where there is none. Love you @irelandbasingerbaldwin ...ps after writing this and using the word “step” so many times, I think I know why it is called a “stepparent” now 😂🤪🤔

A post shared by Hilaria Thomas Baldwin (@hilariabaldwin) on Apr 18, 2019 at 8:59am PDT

Baldwin's touching message comes shortly after the mom opened up about suffering a miscarriage.

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This article originally appeared on USA TODAY: Hilaria Baldwin's message about being a stepmom to Alec's daughter is so relatable