Carson Daly Says Sleeping in Separate Bed from Wife Siri Helps Them 'Stay Together': 'Highly Recommend' (Exclusive)

The couple have been sleep divorcing, as they call it, since 2019, and Daly tells PEOPLE he swears by the practice

The secret to Carson Daly’s marriage lies in his (often empty) bed.

At the Today show’s Solar Eclipse watch event held at The American Museum of Natural History on Monday, April 8, the 50-year-old TV personality told PEOPLE that he and his wife Siri Pinter sleep in different beds several times a week — and they “both secretly love it.”

"The object is to stay together. That's what we'd like to do. And so reverse engineering that, it's like — by any means necessary, for the two of us, [we want to] still be in a relationship when we're dying,” he says of how he and Pinter, who he met in 2005 and wed in 2015, approach their relationship.

They both have a “whatever it takes” mindset, he says, and part of that involves what he calls “sleep divorce.”

“It's been good for us,” he admits. “We don't do it all the time, but a couple of days during the week — especially if I want to watch an Islanders hockey game kind of later at night — I go into the guest room, she retires upstairs to read her book or watch a show.”

They part on a “Goodnight, I’ll see you tomorrow,” and Daly says “it just takes a lot of attention out and it works. So I highly recommend sleep divorce.”

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Daly and Pinter, a food blogger and cookbook author, have been “sleep divorcing” since 2019. The idea sprouted while Pinter, 43, was pregnant with the couple’s fourth child, daughter Goldie Patricia.

“We're both pretty good-sized humans and it just wasn't really working when she was in her third trimester, and I also have sleep apnea, which is very sexy for the ladies out there, I'm sure,” Carson told PEOPLE in 2020. “She couldn't get comfortable, so we were like a commercial you would see, kicking each other and just not sleeping.”

"We woke up and we just shook hands like, 'I love you, but it's time to sleep divorce. It'll be the best thing for all of us,'" he added.

After their family grew from five to six, the couple continued sleeping separately occasionally as a new need arose. They’d relocated to California for Daly to film The Voice, making his wake up time for the Today show 3 a.m., so the former TRL host was “purposely not sleeping” with his wife and newborn.

“We're still sleep divorced, but for discernibly different reasons,” he said, before admitting, “I don't know if we'll ever sleep together again.”

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While Daly and Pinter might not spend many nights in the same bed, they're as happy as ever together.

For last year's Sexiest Man Alive issue, Daly — who also shares son Jackson, 14, and daughters Etta, 11, and London, 9, with Pinter — raved to PEOPLE about how great of a cook his wife is.

"My wife is the big cook in the family. I just love to barbecue," he said.

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Cooking is something that brings their whole family together. "It's fun. It's something that we can all center our attention around as far as putting a good meal together, sitting around as a family," he shared.

His oldest is starting to get in on the fun, too. "My 14-year-old has taken an incredible liking to cooking," Daly said of Jackson, who he called an "incredible" chef. "He goes outside and makes a big fire and does a campfire steak and he really knows techniques and what he's doing."

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