Bridesmaid Tells Bride That She Wants to Wear the Same Hairstyle and Dress Color as Her on Her Wedding Day

When asked to pick a different dress color, the bridesmaid replied "I'll think about it"

One bride appears to be dealing with some serious styling disagreements with a bridesmaid ahead of her wedding day.

Taking her situation to Reddit — via the popular subreddit "Am I The A------?" —  the bride, 25, revealed that her bridesmaid, referred to as "Nola," also 25, had raised issues with her about various aspects of her bridesmaid outfit, including selected hairstyles and dress colors.

On top of that, the bridesmaid suggested that she wanted to wear both the same hairstyle and dress color as the bride, and when the bride told her no, "she got very upset."

"For context, we've known each other nearly 5 years, but haven't kept in touch much in the last 2," the bride shared in her post. "The only reason she's a bridesmaid is because she called me up on a promise I made her 3 years ago saying that I'd make her my bridesmaid when I got married."

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She also noted that she was covering the cost of outfits and accessories, but that her bridesmaids were paying for their own hair and makeup.

As for the hairstyles in question, the bride explained "My bridesmaids are wearing a messy bun, and I'll be having my hair down in Hollywood waves." She also stated in the post that the bridesmaid in question "does not like the hairstyle I have picked for the bridesmaids and is going to be wearing the same hairstyle as me."

It wasn't only the bride's hairstyle that the bridesmaid was interested in, but the color of her dress as well. She explained that her bridesmaids were requested to "wear any color of the rainbow to my bridal shower, and I told them I'm wearing white." According to the bride, this prompted the bridesmaid to suggest she'd wear either pink or white, which the bride shot down for not being in the rainbow and being the same color as her dress, respectively.

The bride then asked her fellow Redditors for their take on the situation, eliciting plenty of support.

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"NTA. But OP, she had to push you into making her a bridesmaid, and she knows it," wrote one user in the most upvoted response under the post. "She’s self-centered and making trouble deliberately. Please tell her that since she doesn’t want to do the gig as defined, she’s out. Don’t give her another chance or she’ll show up on your wedding day looking like you. You’re allowing a lot of flexibility but she’s set to hit you with it."

This prompted another to agree, writing, "OP needs to kick her out of the bridal party. Am I the only one who thinks she is going to show up in white?!? I can’t be the only one. NTA."

Further calls for the bride to be more candid with her bridesmaid came from other Reddit users, such as one who wrote "NTA but you would be if you let her walk all over you! Sit her down and lay the law, tell her how it’ll work or she can be a regular guest or not come at all."

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However, some Redditors argued that the bride was making the situation into something bigger than it was. "My wedding was 15 years ago and my advice to you is to let go of the petty stuff - s--- is going to go wrong regardless of how hard you try to control it," wrote one user. "You can decide how much you want to let these imperfections affect your enjoyment of your wedding day. I can guarantee you that, a month after the day, the only person who will remember those details is you (and maybe some of your wedding party). Focus on what is important and let the rest be what it is."

The sentiment was strongly echoed by another user, who replied "Oh wow, I feel strongly differently than all of you on this one. While she is clearly immature, this is mostly on you because it sounds like you knew this about her PRIOR to agreeing to have her as a bridesmaid. More importantly though, I will simply never understand why people — even brides — don’t have anything better to worry about than how people wear their hair at your wedding."

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