This Bride-To-Be Has The Best Comebacks For Unwanted Wedding Advice, And I'm Saving Them For Later
This is Justina Sharp, a 23-year-old bride-to-be who quickly realized that the difficulties of wedding planning don't only come from picking a venue. In fact, a lot of the stress can come from the unwanted opinions of those who are — or are not — on the guest list.
After their engagement, Justina and her fiancé, Jordan Schauberger, swung into wedding planning, but she was surprised by the instant pushback to some of their wishes.
"In bridal media, I kept getting inundated with articles about how to compromise, how to let people down gently, etc., and felt like there was a big vacant spot where 'just say no' should have been," she said. "So I filled it."
And fill the gap she has. In a viral video on TikTok, Justina shared a few comebacks for unsolicited advice, based on the most common obstacles she's had to face while planning her own wedding.
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Her zingy clapbacks, which include suggesting others take their own advice when they have a wedding instead of trying to live vicariously through her, instantly caught the attention of other recently engaged people and people who just like mess.
So, she started a series on applicable comebacks, and she responds to commenters who need something to say in their specific situations. When considering why helping other brides is important to her, Justina said: "Women especially are constantly told to be nicer, to accommodate others, so on and so forth, and I think it should stop here. A wedding is for you and your partner, and you are inviting GUESTS to bear witness to a celebration of your love."
"My advice in general isn’t about being rude or confrontational; it’s about enforcing my boundaries, protecting my peace, and not parting out a once-in-a-lifetime experience to people who lack boundaries," she continued. "Some weddings are for everyone, and I completely respect that, but mine is not."
If you're looking for a few polite but stern ways to simply say "no," here are Justina's best comebacks for unwanted advice on...
Décor:
Unwanted advice example: "I really like white roses. You should have white roses everywhere."
Comeback: "That is such a great idea! YOU should have a wedding."
The guest list:
Unwanted advice example: "If [enter name here] is not invited, I don't want to come."
Comeback: "OK, thank you for letting me know."
Kid-free weddings:
Unwanted advice example: "I should be able to bring my kids. Children are a blessing."
Comeback: "To YOU."
"Traditions":
Unwanted advice example: "But a garter toss is tradition."
Comeback: "Not anymore."
Attendance:
Unwanted advice example: "If you don't have six signature drinks, people aren't going to want to come."
Comeback: "They don't have to."
Your budget:
Unwanted advice example: "For what you're spending on this wedding, I could buy a house."
Comeback: "So do that."
