Ben Affleck Once Shared His & Jennifer Lopez's Different Privacy Views
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Waiting for tonight an answer to those Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck rumors?
While there's been a lot of speculation about the state of their marriage, neither the Grammy nominee nor the Oscar winner have publicly commented on where they stand. But just a few months ago, fans got a look at one area Ben and Jen don't see eye to eye.
In J.Lo's documentary The Greatest Love Story Never Told—released at the end of February—the actor recalled how he wasn't comfortable with all the attention around their relationship when they first dated in the early aughts.
"When Jen and I broke up before," Ben said while looking back at the end of their engagement in 2003, "the catalyst for that was this massive amount of scrutiny around our private life."
However, he suggested the couple didn't necessarily share the same viewpoints when it came to having a romance in the public eye.
"I had a very firm sense of boundaries initially around the press while Jen I don't think objected to it in the way I did," the Argo star continued. "I very much did object to it."
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So when they got back together in 2021, Ben expressed how he wanted to keep things more private. However, he realized this was easier said than done.
"Getting back together, I said, 'Listen, one of the things I don't want is a relationship on social media,'" The Town alum continued. "And then I sort of realized it's not a fair thing to ask. It's sort of like you're gonna marry a boat captain and you go, 'Well, I don't like the water.' We're just two people with kind of different approaches trying to learn to compromise."
And though Ben could relate to pulling from real-life experiences for art, he admitted it wasn't easy for him to appear in Jennifer's documentary and for her to draw inspiration from their life together for her 2024 album This Is Me... Now—a follow-up to her 2002 release This Is Me…Then—and its corresponding film This Is Me... Now: A Love Story.
"I know as a writer and director, I certainly do the same things," he later added. "But things that are private, I had always felt, are sacred and special because in part they're private. So, this was something of an adjustment for me."
Ben, 51, and Jennifer, 54, tied the knot in 2022—first in a Las Vegas wedding and then in a luxurious ceremony in Georgia. But lately, fans have been wondering what's going on with Bennifer—especially since they hadn't been photographed together in about a month and a half, the singer liked an Instagram post about relationship red flags and multiple outlets reported they're living apart.
Still, the director—who shares kids Violet 18, Seraphina, 15, and Samuel, 12, with ex-wife Jennifer Garner—and the Hustlers star—who co-parents 16-year-old twins Max and Emme with ex-husband Marc Anthony—have been spotted with their wedding rings. And on May 19, they were pictured together smiling in a car.
E! News has reached out to Ben and Jennifer's reps for comment but has yet to hear back.
For now, look back at how their love story began by reading on.
December 2001: Filming Gigli
The two prepare to film a scene for the movie in West Hollywood. The couple met on the set of the film.
October 2002: Spotted in Beverly Hills
The two are spotted in the city.
November 2002: Filming Gigli and Engagement
The two film the movie on Will Rogers State Beach in Los Angeles. That month, the actor proposes to the actress with a 6.1-carat pink diamond ring.
November 2002: Filming Jersey Girl
The two film the movie in New York City.
November 2002: Leaving MTV's TRL
Is there anything more '00s than both Bennifer 1.0 and TRL?
December 2002: Red Carpet Debut
The two make their red carpet debut as a couple at the premiere of her film Maid in Manhattan.
January 2003: Sundance
The two bundle up at the Sundance Film Festival in Utah.
February 2003: Daredevil Premiere
The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben as the superhero.
February 2003: Daredevil Premiere
The two appear at the premiere of Daredevil, starring Ben and future ex-wife Jennifer Garner.
March 2003: Oscars
The two attend the Academy Awards together.
May 2003: Basketball Game
The two sit courtside at a Los Angeles Lakers game.
July 2003: Canada Trip
The two film a Dateline interview for NBC in Vancouver.
July 2003: Gigli Premiere
The two appear at the premiere for their movie in Westwood, Calif.
August 2003: Gigli Is Released
...it flops at the box office.
September 2003: Wedding Is Off
The two postpone their wedding. No future date is given.
October 2003: Baseball Date
The two are seen at a Boston Red Sox game. The team is Ben's favorite.
January 2004: It's Over
The two end their engagement.
September 2021: Red Carpet Royalty
They're baaaack. On Sept. 10, the couple makes their first red carpet appearance in 18 years at the Venice Film Festival premiere of The Last Duel.
September 2021: Look of Love
There's no denying J.Lo makes for a stunning plus-one!
September 2021: Back to the Stage
Ben supports J.Lo at the 2021 Global Citizen Live event in New York City, where she performed onstage. It marked her first music gig since she performed at VAX LIVE in May, where the actor also appeared onstage separately, fueling rumors of a rekindled romance.
September 2021: Met Gala Debut
The two attend the Met Gala together for the first time.
October 2021: PDA at Premiere
Jen and Ben put on a sizzling display on the red carpet at the premiere of his film The Last Duel in New York City.
April 2022: Engaged Again!
Jennifer confirmed her engagement to the Gone Girl actor with a video posted to her On The JLo site, revealing a glimpse of her beautiful engagement ring with a green stone.
July 2022: Married!
On July 16, Jennifer and Ben tied the knot in a surprise ceremony at A Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas.
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