‘The Bachelorette’ star Trista Sutter is ‘inaccessible,’ husband Ryan says: ‘I miss her’

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Where is Trista Sutter?

Fans are concerned about “The Bachelorette” alum, 51, because of her husband Ryan Sutter’s cryptic posts in which he said that his wife is “temporarily inaccessible” to her family.

Since May 12, Ryan, 49, has shared four black-and-white posts on Instagram about missing Trista, 51, whose whereabouts are unknown.

Ryan and Trista Sutter, pictured on vacation in Willemstad, Curacao on Nov. 29, 2022, are currently living apart, according to Ryan’s cryptic social media posts. Getty Images for Sandals Resorts
Ryan and Trista Sutter, pictured on vacation in Willemstad, Curacao on Nov. 29, 2022, are currently living apart, according to Ryan’s cryptic social media posts. Getty Images for Sandals Resorts
Trista and Ryan Sutter have been married since 2003. Ryan Sutter / Instagram
Trista and Ryan Sutter have been married since 2003. Ryan Sutter / Instagram

Ryan said that Trista “is fine” in his latest post from May 18, but the rest of his caption still worried fans.

“Trista is at a place in life where she is searching a bit,” Ryan wrote alongside his selfie. “An opportunity presented itself that may help her on that quest. With her family’s support, she has taken it. Part of that process means that she is temporarily inaccessible to us.”

“I miss her. We miss her,” he added.

Ryan Sutter shared a cryptic post about his wife, Trista Sutter, alongside a picture of himself. Ryan Sutter / Instagram
Ryan Sutter shared a cryptic post about his wife, Trista Sutter, alongside a picture of himself. Ryan Sutter / Instagram

Trista and Ryan married in 2003 after her season of “The Bachelorette.” They have two children, Maxwell, 16, and Blakesley, 15.

Ryan first revealed his wife was off the grid one day before Mother’s Day, when he shared a photo of Trista and opened up about missing her.

Ryan and Trista Sutter met on Season 1 of “The Bachelorette.” Ryan Sutter / Instagram
Ryan and Trista Sutter met on Season 1 of “The Bachelorette.” Ryan Sutter / Instagram
Ryan and Trista Sutter have two children. Ryan Sutter / Instagram
Ryan and Trista Sutter have two children. Ryan Sutter / Instagram

“I can think of only a handful of days i have not, at minimum, spoken to this incredible woman,” the former reality star wrote. “She is the love of my life and my best friend. I cannot imagine loving her any more or any more fondly. But i guess we’re gonna find out.”

On Mother’s Day, Ryan posted a full family photo and lamented over the fact that Trista was not with her husband or kids.

“Sometimes you have to go away so they know you’ll come back, that your love is not limited by distance or difficulty or time,” Ryan said.

The firefighter posted about his absent wife, again, on May 17 with more cryptic words about being apart.

Ryan and Trista Sutter on vacation for her 50th birthday in November 2022. Getty Images for Sandals Resorts
Ryan and Trista Sutter on vacation for her 50th birthday in November 2022. Getty Images for Sandals Resorts

“I really wish I could talk to you,” he wrote, later adding, “I want to know how you’re doing. I want to support and encourage and cheer you on. I want to be there for you. But I can’t.”

Ryan continued: “I’ll be here when you get back. I’ll be here to listen to you, to smile with you, maybe cry with you — I’ll be here … forever.”

Ryan and Trista Sutter at Sandals Royal Curacao resort on Nov. 29, 2022. Getty Images for Sandals Resorts
Ryan and Trista Sutter at Sandals Royal Curacao resort on Nov. 29, 2022. Getty Images for Sandals Resorts

Trista has not posted on Instagram since May 12.

She was last seen publicly in January, when the couple attended Gerry Turner and Theresa Nist’s “Golden Bachelor” wedding in California.

Ryan and Trista Sutter at “The Golden Bachelor” wedding on Jan. 4, 2024. ABC via Getty Images
Ryan and Trista Sutter at “The Golden Bachelor” wedding on Jan. 4, 2024. ABC via Getty Images

Fans have speculated that Trista is filming a reality show right now, which would explain her absence.

“She’s probably on TRAITORS,” one fan wrote in Ryan’s Instagram comments, referring to the Peacock reality series, which is rumored to start production on Season 3 soon.

Another fan guessed that Trista might be on the next season of Fox’s “Special Forces.”

Others showed support for Ryan and gave him well-wishes as he remains apart from his wife.

Trista and Ryan Sutter have been married for over 20 years. Ryan Sutter / Instagram
Trista and Ryan Sutter have been married for over 20 years. Ryan Sutter / Instagram

The Sutters — who are the longest-standing couple from “The Bachelor” franchise — made headlines in 2020 when they revealed that Ryan was battling a mystery illness, later revealed to be Lyme disease.

Trista gave the latest update on her husband’s health in April 2024 on Chris Harrison’s podcast.

“He definitely has a lot of ups and downs still and really would like to feel better at least most of the time. He says he’s about 80%,” she said. “I would go to his doctor’s appointments with him because he is so incredibly humble.”

Trista added: “I have never understood it, but I’m grateful because had he not had the kind of tolerance he has, it would’ve been even harder. And it still is.”