In a new YouTube video posted on Jan. 3, Carly gave followers a tour of her "divorce room," as well as some insight into what really went down between her and Evan, who she married in 2017 after meeting on Bachelor in Paradise the year before.
"I call this the 'divorce room.' That's why I'm saging. We're in the divorce room and I'm trying to make new memories here because it's 2021," she explained. "He was sitting right where I'm sitting. I'm going to sage this room so that I don't feel that energy."
Carly, a former cruise ship singer, cleared up some confusion about what really happened between her and Evan. Though they only announced the news of their split in a joint statement in December, she revealed that they separated the day after Thanksgiving, after spending 2020 trying to find a new house for them and their two kids Isabella, 2, and Charlie, 14 months. She added that she and Evan had been working through their issues in therapy for "years."
"I found this house and Evan told me to buy this house, so I did. And then he told me he didn't want to live in it," she explained. "So here we are. It's a new year. We tried, ya'll, for a really long time to make it work."
Of the problems she and Evan faced, the 34 year old said, "We focused a lot more on the kids than we focused on ourselves and ultimately, I think that was our biggest downfall. The kids kind of came to the top of pyramid."
Still, the mom added she wasn't the one who chose to end the marriage.
"I always told him if he wanted out, it was his call," she added. "I'm just not the person who would ever be 'out.' So what are you going to do? If someone doesn't want to be with you, they don't want to be with you."
On Dec. 23, Carly and Evan shared the news of their breakup.
"We have made the difficult decision to separate," the former couple said in a joint statement to E! News. "We will always cherish our time together and continue to have the utmost respect for one another as we focus on what's best for the future of our family. We greatly appreciate everyone's love and support and kindly ask that you please respect our family's privacy as we navigate through this."
Though this video was the first time Carly has spoken out about the details of her pending divorce, she did make a subtle gesture that she was ready to move on by removing Evan's name from her Instagram bio earlier this week.
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